Have you tried confronting her, sensitively? Maybe if you tell her how dangerous it is and that you have been through it, will maybe give her a little eye opener....

lollipop, its hard to find a way that to confront a person with an illness like this and not offend them..on one hand we want the best for them, but on the other we're scared they will jump down our throats at us.

i have suffered when an ed in the past as well, and am still fighting it.
its hard to address the problem, because so many things could be going on in someone's head. they see themselves one way, and we see them completely different.

as you yourself already know, its hard to deal with an ED, but you got past yours and that is so great. and since you have that first hand experience, maybe you could talk to her, confront her about what she is doing, but not get into a fight or anything.
just calmly ask if she wants to talk about what she is doing-and what you think she might be doing.

and explain to her that you have been through this and do not want to go through this again. let her know your here for her, and will always be an open ear, and suggest to her to possibly get some help like from her doctor, or a nutritionist or dietition.
but if she is not accepting in getting help that you might have to leave, because in the end this is about your health too. you have to do what is best for yourself. people of former ED's are vulnerable into falling back into old ways around people still intune with theres.

i hope she will accept some help, and take into consideration of your well being too. if you talk to her about how you once struggled with your ed and to get out of it too maybe she will stop not only for her, butfor you too.

good luck hun.

Thanks for all your advice it really opened my eyes a little more. I have yet to confront her about it as i want to see how she gets on the next few days. She had her first dinner with me today and she ended up having a snack afterwards but i feel like im babysitten though. I leave my bedroom door open and listin to her and sometimes follow her around (with out her knowing)

I really felt like i was slipping this week, It was so hard one day that i only ate 2 weekabix a corsant and a few crakers. I didnt want to eat around her but then i just didnt want to eat full stop. Today was a good day though I convinced her to use up all the veg in the fridge so we ate dinner together, I felt great eating with her.
Ive finally realised when she slips I fall over. So if this continues this week i will have to talk to her...

im glad you guys ate dinner together, its a start to try and do some things together more often.

just remember when you do confront her, to be open and honest. and tell her exactally what she said, 'when she falls you fall over.'

things will work out, but just know that if things start going down hill a little more than your comfortable with that there are people you can talk to, family, a counsellor or therapist or a hotline, and know that you can talk to her sooner than what you plan.

hope all is going well.