we had been in a relationship for over 4 yrs, never lived together but the last time i have seen my so called bf was over 3 weeks ago. we had been bickering for a week because i had been told he had been spending time with another woman. he claimed it was a lie, there is no other woman and that the person who told me was just trying to break us up.

he has been distant for while now and also this person also told me that he has been telling people all summer that he was no longer with me and that he was single. but he didnt tell me or his family...they are just in the dark as i am.

after i was told about this other woman he ignored me for 3 days, when he finally came over i asked him why he wouldnt contact me right away after he found out i was told this and he claimed he was devastated. at this point i said to him that if he didnt see a future with me or he just didnt feel the same way toward me that he could just say so. he said there was nobody else and he only wanted to be with me.

when he left that day, he ignored me for another 2 days...that is the last day that i have spoken to him. i am not sure what is going on...he is a 46 yr old man and he knows i have been through sooo much.

i ve been widowed twice leaving me to raise 3 children alone. my family support system is not in place as there is too much dysfunction. i have wonderful friends but i cant dominate their time just crying and trying to figure this all out.

i know i have only mentioned the last 3 weeks here but i am struggling with how things were left hanging with no regard for my life or feelings. if i could get some insight, advice or any words of wisdom to help me to move on quicker

thanks so much