We've been broken up for almost 3 month now. We were together for over 3 years and we extremely serious. beaome very close to his family and he to mine. We fought a lot but over dumb things, we never cursed at each other just really loud arguing. Our relationship was going really well, he was buying a house and asked me to move in with him, i went with him to looking at homes, said he planed to marry me and we got to dogs together. But one day he had a panic attack and realized that his life wasn't lived and his life was predictable, live together, get married, and have kids and just work(he works 12 hrs a day 5 days a week from 5 to 5). He wanted to live his life with out restrictions and can't do that with a girlfriend. He said that this was something that he needed to do now before he was married with kids so he would do it then. And then that was the end of us. He never actually said that i was over and he even said that we may end up together again one day, he even told his sister that he might even just ask me to marry him after this "early mid-life crisis" thing( hes only 22). He had a ton of money saved and spent all with in these past 3 months, traded his car that was only 1 year old for a red truck, got a really expensive apartment, bought new clothes, a surf board, and spend $1000 on a guitar. our break up was really civil no arguing or anything. What the point.
Since the break up he comes to pick up the dogs about once every 2 weeks, in the begging he was cold and distant, and i was just neutral didn't acted like i missed him, but not cold either. But the last couple of times we actually sat down and talked. I don't think that its about him missing me or anything, i think that he may just be over us and just sees me as a friend. when we talk face to face its kind of like 2 people meting for the first time. I'm not waiting or anything, in fact i don't know at this point if i really want to be with him again, it hurt really bad what he did after all the things that he told me to make me feel like we were forever. im fine now it doesn't hurt anymore. im just curious what anyone thinks might be going on in his head, i know that no one will ever know but him.
But my really question is this: his family and me are really close, they till contacts me just to see how i am, This weekend is his nieces 1st birthday and grandmas too and they want me to go. 1st b-day at the park then back to the grandma for her b-day. so i would be around him all day. and he use to live with his grandmas and i was there all the time there with him, even stayed the night at times. they told me he said he was fine with me going. but i told them i might be wired and uncomfortable. then they told me they discussed it with him and he said sure. i would love to see everyone, but how do i tell her no. I don't want it to be werid and to look like im still hanging one and waiting for him. Am i making to much of it and just go?
Its a tough one to answer hun only you can decide...I think thats strange as well him just ending it like that...But i suggest you speak to the grandma and explain why you dont want to go and see what she says because i can understand if she wants to see you after all you were close and it didnt end on bad terms...just ring and see what happens
do you really want the truth? with him being so young it's a possibility that he woke up and felt like he wasnt in love with you any more but didnt know how to tell you. your ex's response sounds all too familiar with my separation with my ex. he was very young and confused about what he wanted, he wasnt deeply in love with me and didnt know how to tell me. he knew i was a good women so he wanted to experience other women and wanted to keep open communication in case he didn't find anyone better so he could come back to me.
i would go to the family outing because they love you and it's not about him.