concern27,
Your son has a lot a good things going for him. He is young and healthy, and does not smoke!! It is good that he does not have a lot of pain. He is not feeling ill. Often, patients with a smoldering infection just sort of feel lousy.
As to some of your questions:
It is possible to see osteomyelitis (bone infection) on x-ray, once it has reached the destructive stages. Which is pretty late in the course of an infection. Once it reaches this stage, the bone (on x-ray) can show sequestrum, involucrum, density, and/or light areas, which are big medical terms for holes and dead pieces of bone. But, again, this is very late in the course of osteomyelitis. Early infection may not have any signs on x-ray.
The blood work. In infections which are established and going strong, where the patient is ill, the CBC (complete blood count) usually shows signs of infection (elevated WBC - white blood cell count with a shift in the differential). But, again, in early infections, the patient's blood work may not show a lot.
This is why the cultures and biopsies taken at the time of surgery are very important. What the surgeon sees and feels during the procedure is also extremely important. Does the bone feel "normal" or is it soft? Are the soft tissues healthy appearing or are they friable, gray, noncontractile?
Hopefully, the infection is confined to the skin and subcutaneous tissues, and has not really started to work on the underlying bone yet. But, since there is no real separation of the tissues, if there is infection in the soft tissues, the area has to be thoroughly debrided, down to healthy bleeding tissue. Any foreign bodies (including orthopedic hardware) are usually removed, as they can be something for the infection to cling to. Foreign bodies also seem to act as a nidus for infection.
But, we can actually do a lot for osteomyelitis now days. Yes, it is a challenge to treat and eradicate, but it is usually successful. It is extremely rare now days for a part to have to be amputated due to an uncontrollable infection. It does occur, but again, it is very, very rare. And, usually, it is in patients who have many systemic illnesses and are not in the best of shape.
We have the capabilities to do the necessary debridements (that's a French word which basically just means that the wound/bone/whatever is thoroughly cleaned surgically), to hold the bone stable (external fixator, splints, casts, etc), and the antibiotics to kill the little buggers.
It is depressing to be injured and having to go through surgery. Then, add on top of that complications. So, it is not surprising that your son is down. But, as the saying goes, this too shall pass. Again, at least the problem can be treated and he is young and healthy. He has a lot going for him. Yes, it will test him and push him to his limits. But, he can do it, he has to do. You just tell yourself that that's what life has handed you, and you do the next step. Yea, it's the pits, but that's life.
This is where you come in. Give him as much support and encouragement as you can. Try to think of things that he can do to help divert his attention. Focus on things he can do, not what he cannot do.
But, do watch him. If the depression really sets in deeply, speak with his surgeon about it. Occasionally patients need to be treated for their depression. Sometimes medication is all that is needed, but other times counseling (psychotherapy) is also used. Depression is not a sign of weakness and the patient is not crazy. It is a medical illness, just like the infection. And needs to be treated if it becomes significant.
Again, hope your son does well with his upcoming surgery and that the infection is superficial. Keeping my fingers crossed. Good luck.