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Broken Hearted

I have been dating my this guy for 2 years now and we broke up once and got back together, about 2months a go i saw a picture of a naked women who he works with. When i asked him about it he said she's just a girl who has a crush on him and that its nothing. He addmitted to being wrong so i just brushed it off. The next day i seen a text message from that same girl saying "i miss those lips", i didnt know what to do and he said they never kissed and he doesn't know what she's talking about. Its obvious he's cheating but the thing is he is an honest person, he never lied to me before so when he said he never cheated i believed him. He would rather break up our relationship than cheat. I like talking on the phone with him everyday even if its just for a minute but that beneverappens all he does is text me and sometimes he doesn't even reply to me. It makes me upset and i feel like ii'mnot important to him, so i tried to talk to him about it and all he had to say was that ii'mbeing paraparanoid that its not a big deal. A few days went by and he called me and said he wanted a break. He asked me to give him a week to think things through and i coulcouldn'tthat, he shoushouldn'td a week to figure out if he wants to be with me or not so i let him go. The last thing he said to me was that ii'mthe first girl he ever loved and ii'mthe one we ever pictured getting married too. I love this guy more than i do myself, its been 3 weeks since this happened and i think about him everyday, morning and night. I want him back but i dodon'tnow what to do. talking to him will just push him away and i feel like he wanted a break so he can mess around with other girls. I cacan'ttop crying and ii'msad all the time, how can i get over this? He is like my best friend, i ccan'texplain how much i love him! But he ccan'teven call me, it seems like it doesn't even effect him. Can a person be that careless
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replied August 26th, 2010
I have been going through the same thing. My former boyfriend was the love of my life and my best friend. Then I saw some picture of his ex on his phone and I believe him when he said it was nothing. He too was always honest. There is no quick fix or easy remedy to make yourself feel better. But what you have to do is stay strong for yourself. It is obvious that this guy may love you but is not treating you the way you need to be treated right now. The best thing to do is be around people--friends, family--anyone who will distract you for a while. You need to get some distance away from him and try out new things that will make you happy. Let yourself cry when you need it but try to teach yourself to not always feed on the emotions or else you will make yourself sad all the time. I know exactly how you feel and it is very hard to be happy but you have to take care of yourself.
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replied September 7th, 2010
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I'd suggest you walk away from the realtionship. I do not believe he is telling you the truth.....if he is not being honest now....it will only grow in the future. I was involved with someone who lied to me about being with other people.....I finally cut all communications off with her.
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