dont feel stupid,love doesnt depend on age or time...u shouldnt beat urself up about what u couldve done differently either...i felt the same way with my ex,we were together for 2 and a half yrs...untill one day i realised i couldnt or shouldnt have done ANYTHING differently cus then i wouldnt have been myself...dont u want someone to want u and love u for who u are and the way u think and do things?maybe he still loves u as a friend but not as his girlfriend.u are 18,im not implying u didnt love him for real...but there is more than one person for everyone.ull find someone again who can love u completly.stop blaming urself.good luck

It usually have psychological effects when this guy is your first. You have this tendency to want to win him back but your only fooling yourself. Instead of asking this, why not try to think on how can I find ways to forget him and move on. Distract yourself. Find something that will keep your mind busy to such extent that wouldn't have any time to think of him or about him. Go have a holiday. It's not like it's the end of the world.

years ago i was in a relationship with a guy....he told my pastor he is serious about me. a few months after that he told me he's moving out to get his own apartment with his male friend (like a brother). i felt like over night his feelings changed. but looking back at this story, my ex told his mom, sister, ex girlfriend, friends how miserable he was and how he didnt want to be with me anymore but he didnt know how to tell me.

so no man's feelings is like a computer, no one can shut their feelings off like a switch. i know you may not want to hear this but he probably felt differently and he didnt know how to tell you without hurting you. trust me you learn from your experiences even the very painful ones. i know you will be okay and you will get over this.

i had just the same setuation!..i just turned 18 3 days ago..n i had tht guy who was a bit older..n evryting seemd to be so perefect..i would say too perfect!..after we went to las vegas with him a month ago..i comletely had fallen for him..as he was so sweet n evrything i dream about..i was just out of serious relationship with a guy i truly loved..so my new boyfriend really helped me to move on.he was saying things like "I WILL NEVER LET U DOWN!!im nt like one of these guys"..n i believed him..i thought he was differnt..i was almost ready to leave evrything n move to las vegas with him..im glad i did not do that..as in the morning after my birthday he came back from off shore and i have not seem him for 3 weeks. we planed to spend that day together. i was texting him all morning to ask if he got on land ok..but did not get any reply..i worried if something happend..when he finally turned up i walked out angry and said that already have other plans for tonyt..he just walked away without saying anything..i knew i made the mistake..i phoned him and apolgized..we met that night and he decided that we should not be together.it totally tore my heart apart..i could not understand how evrything culd change in one day?? he does not text me or call me..i feel like caca..cuz i just was out of this kind of relationship and here i am again..i do not know if ive got enought power to get over it again!

sometimes, these things cannot be forced.. it's hard, but u have to tell urself to move on, and forget the pain.
best of luck!

i hear a lot of young women complain about the same thing on this site. the guy all of a sudden changed or decided theyre not interested.
some guys lie, cheat, do any and everything do get xxx, some guys are confused, some loose interest fast b/c in their minds something better presented themselves to them.
and they dont think about the hurt they caused when they do those things.

my advice you all is protect your heart, by talking to guys who are worthy of you, and dont ignore the red flags a guy sends out no matter how much you like them, b/c in the end yo may be the one that was hurt.

i bought my ex a car, lost at least $30k, i sold my duplex for him, and afterwards he tried to kick me out of his house when i basically raised him for 5 years. i had to live in a shelter and my family didnt want to be bother with me and i have a child.
all this couldve been avoided if i paid attention to the red flags he gave, our relationship wouldve been over in 1 month and not 5 years.
good luck to all

I have been really down, as you could see from my coment I have left here 3 weeks ago. It has been 3 weeks and I had to step over myself to go up there with the big smile on my face. I want to thank you to the peopel who have been there for me. After this 3 weeks I realised that it was not even "love" or anything like that as I managed to get over him so quickly! I still really like him but as I friend, as we always could understand each other and I will not call him an"problem" becausee i do not have any feelings for him anymore. I totaly do not care what he is doing with his life. I understood that when he gave me a lift to college yestrday. He told me that he was seeing someone else, I was surprised(you should see his face, how he was surprised) about that "I do not really give a sHitt!" I do not want to be silly and lie to myself that I want to be with another guy just now because I do not. I will not do it because I want to show off in the front of him;) and I am glud that I feel this way. So all the people up there I want to tell you! do not ever trust A MAN! that is that simple. Men as all the "human" beings have the moments when they get really emotional and can tell you some things you rely on after. but you should not do so! as you have to love yourself and put yourself in the first place! you are the one with who you have to spend the rest of your life. do not fool yourself;)
good luck to evrybody;)

i am glad you've gotten over him. now what you have to do is focus on yourself, focus on healing.
i dont want you to think that all guys are bad, just as much as i wouldnt want a guy thinking the same about women.
the next guy you meet might be a good guy, and i wouldnt want you not giving your best, but showing signs of bitterness.
so when i say breath, give yourself some time to heal, without jumping into another relationship.
i know how you feel, i m stilling healing also.

I defantly do not want another realtionships just now;) and if i will start date someone that will not be soon. Its summer time and I want to enjoy myself, I am going away to spain for 1 month with my friends, and will try to make the most of it!
I am not saying that all the guys are bad. I had one guy in my life and we have been together for 2 years. He was an angel but I left him. I was such a bad person to do so because it totaly broke his heart. He still texts me (its been one year) but I do not want him back as he was too good!..its very stupid but i always want to be with the bad guys. as the good guys are boring..and I loose the interest too quickly. maybe that was my "pay back"...atleast I did not lie to him and said straight to his face that i am not ready for anything serious.
I understand it makes it even harder when you have the children as you do not want the children get hurt. My ex who i just broke up with had 4 wifes! and 5 children!..hahahah, i know its funny. because the clever woman would never go for the man like that but that time i wanted to be blind! he has something about him that attracks woman so much!!!;)lucky man! i wish him good luck in the future.. as the worst thing can happen to you is in the end of the day you are LONELY! and you have nobody to speak to. I have my parents, good friends and brothers to support me and keep me going. he has nobody apart from the big house, brand new lamborghini and some cash in the pockets that make him be so confident in himself. I hope he will find someone with who he will finaly settel down and start thinking about his life.
Same for you, in the end of the day, you have your child. You have to live for your baby. It is sad when you waste years of your life on someone who doesnt deserv it.

KatGref, i think what u r going thru is normal and i myself have fault with the "too goody good" guys and lose interest. there is a chinese saying "guys who are not bad, women dont love them".
Anyway, beauty is in the eye of the beholder, so it's within ure choice.
i'm enjoying my single life be happy!