Yes, it's possible for condoms to break. To protect yourself further, I'd suggest birth control pills along with the condoms. You can get them free (or for very cheap) at your local Planned Parenthood.

4 months :-\. Please think about this before you do it. There are A LOT of questions you need to ask yourself. Like if there is a possibility you will regret this later. If you do decide to do it then you might want to think about another form of birth control plus condoms.

sweety im not being mean but when your 13, theres no such thing as a steady relationship... im 17 and i cant say i know of many steady relationships, i steady relationship is one where your almost engaged, or even engaged... i suggest you wait, 4 months is really not that long... if you think your relationship is so steady, why not wait till youve been with him for a year? there is no reason to rush into anything. even usuing a condom, u can get pregnant or a std... and its very very rare, but even with birth control and a condom, you can still get pregnant, i personlly know 2 people this happened to. i know you wont listen to this, but i can almost guruntee if you lose your virginity to him , at this young age, you will regret it when you find the guy you want to marry.. you will wish you would of waited long, and give it to him... believe me, i regret it... im pregnant and dont regret that, but i wish i would of waited a lot longer to lose my virginity.

I'm going to agree with all these girls. At 13, you will likely regret giving away a part of you some people want to wait for marriage for. Sex becomes a very intimate and personal thing and at thirteen you're not ready for those emotions. And not that I know anything about your boyfriend, but 4 months is not a long term relationship. By the time you're 18, you could sleep with 15 people if you keep those standards up. No matter what prevention measures you take, you can always get pregnant if you're having sex. And your body is not even physically ready to endure a pregnancy, so you're looking at maybe having to choose abortion and dealing with the possible emotional trauma of that.

If you are going to go do anything you can get them very cheap at your local Planned Parenthood. That would be your best bet. But you should wait. 4 months is a short time. I am 16 pregnant and the babies dad threatens to leave me like every 3 days. You don't want that. It is a horrible feeling!

4 months is NOT a steady relationship. You are not ready for sex. I know you may think you are but your not. your a child still, there are other things to do in relationships. If you did get pregnant theres a huge, HUGE chance he will leave. I'm 19 and my baby's daddy left me. I can't imagine 13. Second of all your body is not ready for sex. If you really want to get closer start sharing diaries.

I don't think anyone has the right to tell her not to have sex at all, she's probably going to do it regardless of what anyone on the internet thinks. We should just be giving her advice on contraception, which is what she wanted.

To the original poster, you should definitely look into getting on the pill as well as using condoms. Condoms alone are about 97% effective, & the pill is 99%, so when used together the odds of getting pregnant are very very slim.

I absolutely agree. Remember what you were like at 13? If somebody told you not to do something, your first instinct was to do it. The best bet here is to just make sure she has SAFE sex and protects herself from pregnancy.

I think we have an obligation to tell someone our honest advice. My advice is, there isn't enough of a benefit/pleasure to having sex at 13 for a girl, to outweigh the negatives/risks.

Because you're thinking about it like a grown woman, not like a young teenaged girl.

She didn't ask us whether we thought she should have sex or not. She asked us about birth control methods. I'm sure a group of random people on the internet are not going to change her mind about having sex at her age when it's obviously what she wants to do - so instead of turning her off completely to listening to advice, why not concentrate on giving her the answers she needs? She needs to know how to protect herself from pregnancy. She didn't ask for a lecture on her sexual practices.

Not sure where the lines came from...

lol yea, i was like, whats up wit the lines... weird lol

lol I was thinking the same thing.

omg girl 4 months is soooo little time!
DO NOT! u will regret it! i gave it up to my ex bf for our 1 year anniversary and we broke up about a month later not for the fact that he wanted to hit and quit it, i broke up with him beacause i wanted a child, i regret it sooo bad now, i thank god i didnt get pregnant but just think about it okay

you might regret it later

get on birth control, im not on it but i talked to my mom about it and she said she didnt want me on it for some strange reason but use condoms, they are 99.9% effective, also check the expiration date on them and DO BIRTH CONTROL!

if any other questions pm me

So AyaMiyaki, do you have anything to say about this post?

Not sure why you felt the need to address me personally, but I've said what I had to say on this thread already.

I think the fact that the original poster hasn't come back is a good indicator that either they won't return, or they've seen the replies and have nothing to respond with.

Wow, that sounded rude.

Laura always gives awesome advice anyway, we're lucky to have her here.

Well, when several people on a thread say "X" and a poster singles out just one of the several to critique, that one wonders why.

Umm, because you replied to my reply, so I replied to yours? It's not that big of a leap in logic.