My ex boyfriend and I were togther for 7 months and 2 weeks ago i told him maybe we should go on a break because both of us are not happy and he agreed i hung up crying because he was being a jerk than he never called back i called and called for 5 days no answer he completey shut me out I wound up running into him and i asked what was wrong nd y he could be so heartless to ignore me he told me its just not there and he doesnt feel the same.. he said we can be friends so were friends but now theres alot of confusion when i see him its fine and we text alot he even picked me up from a event that i had.. right now we agree to be friends with benefits yes i know a horrible idea but he was my first love that i care about very much he told me were only that nothing more and how there never will be more what do i do i feel that were not over!
The friends with benefits.....not so good. You have a lot of feelings for him and how will you feel once he's dating again. Remember you said that you asked for the break for a couple of weeks. That may have really hurt him or given him time to think and decide that he wasn't interested in a relationship. Very few ppl are still w/ their "first loves" today. I'm not trying to be hurtful. It does hurt and almost everyone goes thru it. With time the hurt will pass and you will find another love. Trust me.
We spoke last night him & I and he said that we were not good for each other and I replied if i never mentioned the break we would still be together and he said i took it and ran with it.. As much as he hurts me I feel in need him in my life some way I know its a mistake but theres so much that I can tell he confused about and I think alot has to do with his friends because they did not help the relationship at all because of mine and his age difference.
You just take care of yourself and let your own friends show their care and support. I know that u r hurting and there's no magic answer I can give u to feel better. Friends with benefits generally hurts one or both of the ppl involved.
I`m sorry, but if he`d ever felt anything even remotely resembling love for you (real love - unconditionalness)he wouldn`t be taking advantage of you so terribly now. You`re in love with an idea that is him, but in reality is someone that you`re yet to discover. See my website for the nature of relationship a person like yourself truly deserves. You have to stop in your track with him, and I am sincerely aware that this may be the hardest single thing anyone shall ever ask of you, (or anyone for that matter), but it will get easier, and you will meet that guy. If this helps we can talk whenever - (It mentions DJing but I live in the UK!!)