hi guys,
i have been in a relationship for 2 years now with this guy at my workplace .For one and a half years everything was fine,he had said once after the first six months that he wanted to marry me.
as i said things were fine for one and half years but after that things started changing slowly.like he stopped coming over to sleep at my place every weekend.He got into a new project which he did not enjoy and maybe thats why he waskinda sad and dint want to come over so often.i shouted at him once.Then once when i was ill he dint offer to get me dinner , i felt bad and again shouted at him.Evertime i shouted at him he turned more distant.But there were many times that i dint say anything even when he did something which i felt was wrong like not picking me up at 3 am morning from the bus stand in the morning because he was fast asleep ,but did not even apologise for that.Did not get gift for my birthday and again dint apologise.Did not call me even when he went for 14 days to his hometown( i waited every night for his message).Earlier,in the first one and half years,he used to come home very often in the night,sometimes even during weeknights.But things changed in the second half of the second year.Once i asked him to come home on a weekday as i missed him a lot.He said he will anyway come on the saturday so he wont come.I was always there for him,so i asked him just this once wont you come?but he did not.I cried.Then this december,every morning i go the gym,and icall him over the phone wake him up and we both go together,sometimes he come along sometimes he just sleeps.one day again in the morning i tried calling him and waking him up .He did not pick up the phone i thought he was sleeping.But when i went to the gym i saw his car there.I was really upset.I cried and asked him every day i call and try and wake you up and i also offer to come to your place and wake u up ,but you could not even call .He said i go late to gym like 7 but he wanted to got at 6.If so ,why dint he let me know the previous day when i spoke to him over dinner and said i will going to gym and try and sleep early and i will call you in the morning.
I was very very upset ,and one time and i had paid for his contacts .And i was so angry ,i wanted him to come home and give me the cash,i was nice to him i said i needed the money ,so can i have it.But when he came home,i said i dont want the money ,i just want you to not go for 5 mins.But he dint listen,i tried blocking the entrance but he went anyway.
then he called in the evening and said its all over and there is no point in me calling him ever again or waiting for him to come back to me.
The truth is i really love him.But i felt many times he was losing interest in me and this was building in my head.Along with this i had fears of losing him(he wanted to go to another country to pursue some work for some time).Even this was fine but he NEVER spoke to me EVER and said everything will be fine.He never held my hand for no reason for the last 7 months even once .Never kissed me on the cheek also for the last 7 montths.No gift on my bday,no apologies,no pick up at 3am(which is still fine,but no apologies either and i dint say anythin)Sometimes he came home on weekends,no eagerness like befoer, i could see that.Another thing which my friends said was that,he does not seem very serious about me as he has not introduced me to his family or spoken much about them as we have been together for quite sometime and we are pretty old like 24.I dint want marriage or anything but i wanted some reassurance at some point that he will be with me even if he is far away..

The truth is that i reallly really really love him and i would do anything for him.But if he doesnt want to be with me i cant do anything.Over the last 7 months i have fought with him 7 times( yes,i counted) i told my friends,and they said that is very very less and they have fought with their boyfirnds/husbands even more number of times but they always patched up and never kept a grudge.
They said he is not worth chasing as he doesnt show much interest or has never really done anything for me,even the basic stuff like calling when he goes home or a gift.The thing that bugged me and ate my head for the last 7 months was the fact that he was differeent before and used to call and gift and sai he loved me once in while ,but it all stopped and i could see i was with a changing person which drove me to shout at him sometimes,not always.I mean we fought like once in a month.

They are saying,his relogion is also different and he has not spoken about talking us with his parents,which is not right.
wat they are saying is EVEN we had no fought the last 7 months,he would still not be with me over the long run as he has not done the basic stuff....

They are saying theri boyfrinds were always there for them,and i was like a puppet who did evrythin he wanted me to do.I did do a lot ,not so that he will notice,its just that i love him a lot,to me he is like a baby whom i want to take care of my wholelife,buti coule see the interest fading in him.
Like once when i hung up on him for something small..i was really sorry and to show that i waited in the car for him for 2 hrs.I lost lot of weight to lookgood forhim and overspent on clothes just so that he remains attracted to him.i used to go for any movie he wanted to go without a fuss just to be with him and never made him come for a movie which i liked but he dint want to see.I used to get tickets for him,coz i love seeing him happy and i dint want him to miss out on his favoutirte movie.
My friends are saying he just thought he loved me but actually never did.
Even i asked him the day he called and broke up,you said once that you would marrry me..what happened to that..he said that he was very dumb then....truth is i hung on to that tough he had said it long back which was my mistake
i think when you are 18 you can make mistakes like thatbut not when your 23...
im quite lost right now..iregret shouting..shouting as in just saying things like you dint call,or you dont care...
My friends also said ,if they had done even half of what i had done,theri boyfriends would be at their feet..and they have fouught much much more with their boyfrinds/husbands than i have and this guy is a jerk and he will realise his mistake when he meets another girl and sees how demanding she will be .. ..i love him..but they say if i try anything,i will only lose my self respect and even if he comes back,he will break up again aftr sometime and hurt me again.
They are saying this is a good thing which happened and i should move on.I really love and i always saw him like my family and would have given up my life for him if necessary .Please advice what should i do..
btw,however desperately i wanted to call him after he broke up,i never did try and contact him .its been a week now

please advice