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Q: Boyfriend with low sex drive

asked by: blondie143 on August 2nd, 2008

New User

So i have been with my bf for 7 yrs (now fiance) we have a very good relationship when it doesnt com to sex..

I feel like he doesnt want me as much as a normal guy. When we have sex its great.... he seems very into it...we are experimental he seems pleased with everything we do...but we don't have sex often....sometime i mention it or try and start it and he doesn't want it... seems like we only have sex when he wants it ( which again i say isnt often)

Ive had other sex partners before and they seemed to "want me" way more than my fiance...

When we 1st started dating we fooled around allll the time...then after a while he would go threw phases where he barley wants it...

ughhh what can i do to make him want it more?
is it me?
Im not a sex freak or anything i mean i only want it like 2 or 3 times a week is that really alot? i feel like most guys want it any chance they get...

he doesnt have a hard time getting it up..i could do that in seconds..its just getting him to want it more with out me touching him first lol

Replies(8)

Maddie34

replied on August 2nd, 2008

Moderator

hehe, well not all guys constantly want sex. I'm sure nothing is wrong with you, he could be stressed or something like that.
Have you asked him about it?

blondie143

replied on August 2nd, 2008

New User

it makes me feel like there is something wrong with me... its been like this for years... he just says he doesn't know why

lil_scorpio

replied on August 3rd, 2008

Experienced User

I know EXCATLY how you feel! I posted a similiar problem awhile back. I am the same way, I'd like to have sex with my boyfriend (of almost 5 years) like 2 or 3 times a week and he just doesn't act interested. He doesn't have a hard time getting it up either, he just doesn't want to do anything.
I've asked my bf what the deal is, because it makes me feel like there's something wrong with me also. He says that he's tired or stressed out. I don't always believe that. Sometimes it just seems that he just wants things to be on HIS scheduel ya know? Anyway, it doesn't help to constantly force the subject. It just makes it worse I have learned. Kind of let things go as they are and let him come around to you. I know it's hard, believe me! I wish there were an answer to why some guys do this. Good luck!

blondie143

replied on August 3rd, 2008

New User

lol thanks at least i'm not alone

unnamedny

replied on August 4th, 2008

Experienced User

I'm sorry to hear that, but there are type of guys like that. You can find it happening with man and women. Some guys are into it more some guys are into it less. My last girlfriend only wanted to have sex once a MONTH. It's the same for some guys, there is nothing wrong with them, they are just made this way.

If you don't believe me try to explain why there are type of either guys or girls who want and can have sex 24/7 and still would not be satisfied.

Georgia59

replied on August 4th, 2008

Especially eHealthy

It's really one of the biggest forms of argument between people in a relationship, one having a higher sex drive than the other. It can lead to lots of resentment on both parts. The partner who wants more sex feels rejected, and partner who wants less sex feels smothered. (Or some variation of that theme).

Have you tried talking about it?

unnamedny

replied on August 4th, 2008

Experienced User

It could be the same with Air Conditioner or Heating, Some people so called warm blooded some people so called cold blooded. Some people can't stand heat other's can't stand cold. There is nothing wrong with that that's just the way it is.

Same with some people sweat more than others. I know it for myself it can cause troubles in the bed. Some people sweat a lot some people don't sweat at all.

If you get those you might get an idea that's there is nothing wrong with your boyfriends.

lil_scorpio

replied on August 6th, 2008

Experienced User

Georgia59 wrote:

I totally agree with Georgia59! It's insane. I feel rejected and my boyfriend complaines about feeling smothered. I don't suppose there is a "magic" solution, but talking about it does help. Just make sure that when you talk about it you don't blame anyone, because that just makes it worse. Don't say YOU make me feel bad, instead say I feel bad. Maybe that'll help some with the communication.

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