Ending a Relationship Forum - Boyfriend will not leave!!

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Q: Boyfriend will not leave!!

asked by: Shanadfeldman on November 6th, 2009

New User

Ok so I finally broke it off with him. What do I do? I love him but I know we can not be together. He is trying to manipulate me into staying with him or getting an apartment somewhere else. I told him we had to be out of the my parents (they live some where else this is their 2nd house)by Nov 15. He finally went back to work after I said all this out of desperation. He keeps saying that he has no place to go and will be on the streets. My dad even said he would hook him up with a ticket back to NY. What to do!? I don't want ot throw him on the streets but I really believe he would have a place to go an have friends in NY.

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littlehobbit

replied on November 8th, 2009

New User

Sending you a hug, hun.
Is he at a rational point in his thinking where you would be able to attempt to explain to him you feel his life would be better back in NY?
If someone is thinking irrationally it can take a long time, sometimes an hour or more to get them to realize what you are saying. Believe me, I know.
Sending you another hug. I'm sorry you are so frustrated.

SeekandDestroy

replied on November 8th, 2009

New User

Hi,
Best of luck with your situation. Breaking up is very hard and it's always a little harder on one person than the other. What I try to do is put myself in the other person's shoes and think how they would feel. Then find a happy middle ground.

LOVE and someone that will genuinely do anything for you is a rarity these days. Since I don't know details of your break up it's hard to give sound advice accept for what I said above. It's the golden rule of relationship, I believe Smile

Peace and I hope things work out well for both of you!

W0LF

replied on November 8th, 2009

Extremely eHealthy

The police will put a roof over his head if he isn't going to be civil. I know you don't want to hurt a guy you broke up with but the whole I don't know where to go thing is manipulation. He has friends, he has family. There are options for him. Give him a reasonable few weeks to take care of moving after the break-up. In the past I've given partners a Month, none have ever taken that long. If he isn't gone when time is up let him know you're calling the cops, give him an hour or two to call around for a couch to crash on then do it.

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