Mson, a Supporter here and myself are both HIV and our partners are HIV-. It isn't a deal breaker so if you love each other then don't let that come between you.There are hundreds of fun ways to have safe sex with your partner and not put you at risk. Plus,love is the answer and not what any one else says.If this is a deal breaker then let him down EZ and if not, tell the people who think you shouldn't be with him to mind there own business.
I have been with my partner for 14 years and we have safe sex and he is still negative. Mson has been married for 3 or 4 years and she is while her husband is - and they are trying to have a baby so if you 2 love each other then that shouldn't change anything.It is a manageable condition now...one pill a day usually and not a death sentence like it was a decade ago.There are dozens of different meds to chose from and he should live a long and healthy life.It isn't the end,just a new beginning.
As a gay man who is HIV with a HIV- partner I can tell you this...love will rule in the end and HIV/AIDS wont stop it.Nothing will.

Listen to your mind.,.. You can be friends.. Otherwise its possible you will to have HIV.... Its your choice.. When you think about it think.......think of it as Can I live with hiv? How will I tell my family? And lets say the relationship doesn't work then you're left with HIV.. I was in the hospital and there was a person in the waiting room with AIDS, it was horrible to see I felt so bad.. In my opinion.. STOP IT don't spread it.. Sure condoms will keep you protected.. Just like they make it so that a woman doesn't get pregnant- I could arrange for you to meet my child.. Condoms break leak.. etc. Except you have to worry about other things too kissing etc. I personally wouldn't be able to be comfortable in a relationship. It would be a deal breaker for me.. I would suggest that he finds someone else that has HIV and you find someone who doesn't

You can NOT get HIV/AIDS from kissing,hugging,mutual masturbation,showering together,etc.etc.Please,don't spread false fear where there is no reason.Kissing is NOT at risk behavior.Period.
http://www.positive.org/JustSayYes/safesex .html

You can't get HIV from kissing.. What if he had a cut in his mouth and you did too?

Oxygen kills HIV. I suppose if you were both bleeding orally and in a vacuum or something that it could happen but there has never been a case of people transferring the virus by kissing.

Usually when I am kissing I breath through my nose.. To hard to breath through the mouth.. All I know is, is that it would be difficult for me to date someone with AIDS but... For some not so much.. Anyway! BEST of luck to you

U 2

No, Are u crazy girl. He is not gonna die due to not having sex. Just dont take the risk

Most people who know that I have AIDS ask if my partner had HIV as well. They don't expect me to have a negative partner. I always get mad every time someone asks that question.

That being said, as a person living with AIDS, I was looking for a person without HIV so that we can balance each other out. If I was with another HIV person, I would have to deal with my issues as well as theirs. Too much to handle.

Even in a normal relationship, one has to deal with issues of the other person but in more depth if the other is HIV

I would also like to make it clear that it is all up to you what you want to do. Listen to your heart deep inside. Sympathy and everything aside. This is your life no matter what choices other people made.

BH had known about my status since 1999. We were friends for five years before he proposed in 2003. I was still dealing with my issues even as I got married in 2005. Mbae 2008 I had dealt with all issues but one. It took time to heal the wounds. You must be willing to allow time for your partner to heal and your partner must be willing to heal. It involves work just like any other relationship with a little more effort. You can see why I was not looking for a HIV partner. My baggage was more than enough for me without taking on somebody else's.

Homerx was talking about how we are trying to have a baby. We use artificial insemination and succeeded in getting pregnant in 2005 but it was a miscarriage.

Here is an article that I think will help you see that you are not alone IF you decide to remain with your boyfriend.

All the best...and count your lucky stars that you are negative. Celebrate that.

http://www.visionpositive.ca/e/V6I5/Magnet ic_e.htm

Muthoni (Mson)

What a cool sight...and you and BH look great!

kissing you can still get HIV. However, only if you have a bad cut in your mouth. The risk of becoming infected by kissing is slim to none. I have decided to persue my relationship with my boyfriend. I HIV does not make him who he is. He still has a heart, and I just happened to fall in love with him.

I think it is wonderful that you are standing by him and staying with him.It must be true love and I pray that you two are together for many many many many years!

Just a little FYI:On July 11th, 1997, the U.S. Centers for Disease Control and Prevention (CDC) announced the first case of probable transmission of HIV through kissing.The case involved a man who most likely transmitted HIV to his female sexual partner through deep kissing. The source of the infection was an HIV-positive man who had a history of gum disease. He reported that his gums frequently bled after he brushed and flossed his teeth. He reported that he generally engaged in sexual intercourse and deep kissing at night after he brushed his teeth. Under these circumstances, the woman he was kissing was exposed to saliva contaminated with blood.In this case, the woman was exposed to saliva mixed with blood. This is a known risk, due to exposure to blood. The woman also had a history of gum disease. When a person has gum disease, it is easier for them to become infected. If a person has gum disease, and they get blood, semen or vaginal secretions in their mouth, their risk of infection increases. This is because having gum disease would make it easier for HIV to enter the bloodstream. Therefore in this case, the woman was directly exposed to the man's blood, and the blood had a direct access to her bloodstream.

Saliva, tears, sweat and urine can have the virus in them, but in such small concentrations that nobody has ever been infected through them. However, if any body fluid is visibly contaminated with blood, the risk of transmission exists.

In order for a person to become infected with HIV, three things must happen:

1. You must be exposed to pre-cum, semen, vaginal secretions, blood or breast milk, and

2. The virus must get directly into your bloodstream through some fresh cut, open sore, abrasion, etc., and

3. Transmission must go directly from one person to the other very quickly . . . the virus does not survive more than a few minutes outside the body.

Particular to this case, all three requirements for transmission were met. The woman was directly exposed to blood, the blood had an access to her bloodstream -- especially since she had gum disease -- and the virus went from one person directly to the other. There is still a chance that the woman was infected in ways other than kissing. This woman had protected vaginal intercourse with this man.
In all of the many thousands of cases of HIV/AIDS reported, this is the first case that was probably due to kissing. The fact that it took this many years to find our first case through kissing proves that this is an extremely unusual event. It was so unusual, that it got published in the medical literature by the CDC and others..

In a similar case, a man got infected when he got bitten by an HIV-infected woman. In this case too, there was visible blood in the woman's saliva, and the saliva had a direct route to the man's bloodstream (when his skin got broken by the bite). This too, was a very unusual event.Although saliva alone is a very low risk, if there is visible blood in saliva, then the risk of transmission does exist. Luckily, the vast majority of times, a person does not have visible blood in his or her mouth.
Based on all available data, these two cases (the kiss and the bite) were extremely unusual events and kissing is still considered safe..

So, with that being said,have a wonderful life together,you continue to encourage and stand by your man, both get check ups,you get tested often just to be sure you stay HIV- and love each other.

Peace and Love,
HomerX

I kiss a girl few months ago

i have flu like sympton around the 12-week mark and my blood test shows that my WBC and platelet drop and admitted to the hospital.Doctor cannot find any fault and treat it as viral infection.All of my organ is in good condition.After taking some medicine, my platelet back to normal and WBC is slightly abit low than normal.

Can this increment of WBC and platelet proof anything?

You may be scared because all the things you read about HIV AIDS and crazy people saying things like you can get it from kissing or sitting on a toilet seat...omg ppl need to grow up!!! If I was in your position I would stay with my man no matter what. In this situation he would need me more than ever. And I would love him till the end of time no matter if he had AIDS or anything else. Im glad you are choosing to stand by him... I hope everything works out with you guys! Good luck!

aw i feel better. i am not basing my decision off of what everyone thinks. i know i am happy with him. he may be the one, or he may not be. all i know is that i am happy, so why change that?

btw i know you can get it from kissing. however, the chances aren't that high. i am being really careful and i speak with an HIV therapist about once a week. he has given be a lot of advice and help.

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There is not enough HIV in saliva to cause infection. The fluids that cause infection are blood, precum, semen, vaginal fluids and breast milk for infants.

The activities that transmit infection are, unprotected sex, sharing dirty needles, child birth and breast feeding. If it is not on the list, it is NOT a risk.

Always
Muthoni (Mson)

This what I read:-

"Kissing offers many health benefits but may also transmit a small number of disease-causing bacteria and viruses...

* Colds – also known as upper respiratory tract infections. Many different viruses can cause the common cold. Colds are thought to be spread by direct contact with the virus. You could catch the cold from airborne droplets or from direct contact with secretions (fluids and mucous) from the infected person’s nose and throat.
* Glandular fever – also known as the kissing disease. Glandular fever is the common term for a viral infection called infectious mononucleosis, caused by the Epstein-Barr virus. The virus is spread through saliva and infection occurs through contact.
* Herpes infection – viruses that are considered part of the herpes family include Epstein-Barr, varicella-zoster (causes chickenpox) and herpes simplex (causes cold sores). Herpes simplex virus can be spread through direct contact with the virus when kissing. Herpes is most easily spread to others when the blisters are forming or have erupted. The virus can be ‘shed’ (spread to others) from the site of blisters even when they have healed. Chickenpox is easily spread from person to person by direct contact, droplets or airborne spread.
* Hepatitis B – kissing may also transmit this virus, although blood has higher levels of this virus than saliva. Infection can occur when infected blood and saliva come into direct contact with someone else’s bloodstream or mucous membranes. (Mucous membranes line various body cavities including the mouth and nose.) A person is more likely to be infected when kissing if they have open sores in or around the mouth.
* Warts – warts in the mouth can be spread through kissing, especially if there are areas of recent trauma.

Bacteria that can be transmitted by kissing
Examples of bacteria that can be transmitted during kissing include:

* Meningococcal disease – this is a potentially life-threatening condition which includes meningitis, inflammation of the membranes (meninges) that surround the brain and spinal cord, and septicaemia. These bacteria can be spread either through direct contact or via droplets. Studies show that, with respect to kissing, only deep kissing seems to be a risk factor."

Talk about being careful my friend.

There are other things to be transmitted through kissing but not HIV.

Always
Muthoni (Mson)

As far as i know the person who infected by HIV may have gum bleed. Can kissing cause infection in this case?

if the person who is infected has a cut gum, and you have a cut in your mouth.

you're at risk