Yes it's normal. What if your bf and his ex just wants to be friends? Is it wrong for friends to check up on each other??

I believe calling his ex to see if she is okay is a legit reason and nothing to worry about.

Get back with him, he didn't deserve what you did to him and I strongly believe he needs a second chance, so give it to him.

But be on your toes, if anything seems fishy, than ask him and talk to him. Let him explain the best he can. Basically be understanding.

In my opinion, what you did was unfair, breaking up with him over such matters.

Give him a chance, he might be actually checking up on her like he said and you might look stupid thinking that he was going to or is cheating on you.

Remember in most relationships, guys worry more about the possibility that his girl might break up with him, no matter how stable the relationship is.

Tell me what happens.

Cheers,

Peter

I do not think thats its normal for him to talk to his ex. I understand that she has chrons and I do feel bad for her. But.....he could have told you first...before he called her...so that he could get your input on the situation. He should have told you before and not after. If I was you, I would keep checking on those phone records.

Depends on the situation...some people were friends with their exes before they decided to be in a relationship and then ended on good terms hoping to remain friends...so it really depends...though I know my boyfriend has no business talking to his ex..actually..he wouldn't really want to..and I dont care to talk to mine personally....but you may have over reacted by ending the relationship, i think you should have talked to him about it first and see what is up..let him know that you dont think this is something he should hide...i always say honestly is the best policy..even if something isn't a big deal..the fact that someone hides it makes it a big deal..bc then you question if it wasn't a big deal, why would you go to the trouble to hide it? anyway..just talk to him about how you feel..i dont think really he's done much wrong just let him know it makes you uncomfortable if you wish to get back into the relationship

Couldn't have said it better, Worrywart01.

-Peter

Hmm,

I think that he definietly either feels sorry for her or he feels sorry for himself for leaving her.

Jenny, has he been trying to call and get back together with you?

Jenny,

The real problem is not whether you are justified in feeling betrayed or not. I dont care if his EX was mother TERESA with Crones Disease!

The fact of the matter is that THE CORE FOUNDATION of a relationship is to be supportive and cherishing of each other's feelings.

Even if the whole world including indigenous tribes say that you are overracting... It doesn't change the fact that HE took on the RESPONSIBILITY of being an emotional supporter for you... HE and ONLY HE. and ... well.. he failed.

So... Either he can say...

a. "My girlfriend is tooooo high maintenance!" and leave...
or B.
b. He can say... "I can see how you'd be upset. Since there is a conflict of interest, Your feelings are more important to me than my Ex's."

What you can do is...

A. Evaluate whether your feelings are worth coping with for the sake of keeping the relationship.
OR

B. Finding someone else who cherishes your feelings and defends them as the most precious gift he's ever been entrusted.

IF A: Then support him in his actions that are hurtful to you. (People tend to STOP doing hurtful thing as soon as you act like it doesnt hurt)

im having the same problem me and my bf was out last night and his ex was sat wiv us all night n he was laughing and joking wiv her and shaking her hand now i am in two minds and dont no wether to stay or go but i do understand u can ne 1 help me plz wot shud i do ????

I think you have a right to be concerned

why because

1. you asked him if he was in contact with his ex he said no.....thats a lie cause he was
2. YOU had to confront him instead of him coming to you and saying my ex is sick ive rang her to make sure shes ok - why lie and do it behind your back?
3. i its nothing as he says she did he lie? I'm sure his been talking to her all through your relationship

his not honest. nothing wrong with seeing you ex as long as your honest with your partner and keep them in the loop once it becomes secretive thats when it becomes a problem....your out of the loop...you feel left out and uncared for....what about your feeling? how often does he call you?

he still has feeling for this woman be careful...maybe shes using her illess to bring him back cause she knows that will get his attention...find a new man he will never let the other woman go he loves her more than he loves u...

end of the day he might have been calling to check how she is but he should have told you the sitchuation first. to be honest though ive been with my boyfriend nearly 2years and if he all of a sudden started calling his ex i wouldn't like it at all and i wouldnt let it happen again.fare enough if they were still friends when you got together but not now.

i m bias in this situation b/c my ex was friends with his ex g/f while we were together. he was talking care of her two kids (not his). and thoes kids called my ex's mom "grandmom" and i was in battle with my ex's family about what was disrespectful to me. he claimed to be friends with her but at the very end i found out he was in love with her for 2 years out of he 5 we were together. and for the longest time i couldnt figure out why our relationship was at a stand still. she was disrespectful and just using him for money.
i met women who are respectful and dont step on your toes. for example he had another female friend, and i felt like that relationship was a o.k.
so you really have to evaluate the situation. i have a boyfriend and male friends. and they do make sex jokes and want to sleep with me, but they know it will never happen.
if i move in with my b/f i would call my male friends once in the blue mood.