boyfriend's sexual fantasy me having sex with other men

Then Make it clear that if you act upon it, that it is only you sleeping with another man and nothing else. If you do not feel comfortable, don't do it, it will make things awkward after and can be harmful.

Good luck~!

Go for it and enjoy yourself. I allowed my girlfriend to do the same, and it is, indeed the turn on of a lifetime. It will only make your sex life better at home.

If you have a very strong relationship and not the jealous type and of course if you want to try it, then go for it.
But as far as why men feel that this is a turn on there are many men who enjoy this.
Seeing thier girl moaning and groaning is pure exxtacy to some men, maybe they feel inadeqaute or they want you to enjoy better sex and are just voyuers.
swingers have done this for years and many do it for years, it is the joy of sharing and making her feel good (if she likes it)
Ask him why he prefers this and what is his reason for this.
If you do have sex with some one else rather it be one or two men always do it safely but see how he reacts after you have done this. He may be fully turned on and blow you away/Good luck

Set up a cameracorder in a room where only you and the man you are making love to. Record the love making as he pound on you and you moaning & groaning to his love making. Get in a position so that he will be able to see the man's penis moving back and forth in your vagina. Let him watch as that man give you good oral sex. Let him watch as you gives good oral sex. Take the CD home and let your boyfriend watch it, you never know til he witness another man making love to you if that he can stand for you to screw someone else. To some men, it is a big turn on, it will boost his love making with you. To other, it is a danger thing to do, because he is not ready for this kind of thing. He may think he is ready until he see just how much you are enjoying it. That is why 90% of married people cheats, and not being honest to their mates because they knows that their mates will not be able to face the true!!!!

I have had the wonderful experience of sharing my wife with another man. It was so sexy to see her so turned on which was the main attraction, besides the taboo part of it. I would sugest you try just dancing, flirting, kissing at a bar to see how he felt about it first. The real thing can be different than a fantasy. Make sure you know what he expects, and make sure you pick the right "other man"

oh and working up to it by starting just talking about it and what would happen
then playing around at a bar with someone
then "i dare you" type games can make the build up insanely sexy

I am no prude by far. But I have been in this situation as well, in a secure loving relationship ( or so I thought at the time). Needless to say it did not end well. It turned my man into a total control freak, trust was gone. He accused me of seeing people on the side. He wouldn't let me leave his sight. It was a crazy situation.

I would say go with YOUR gut on this.If this is the man you plan to marry think about the fact that in the future he may not want a woman willing to sleep with other men as the mother of his children. When I got pregnant with my ex husband's child my entire pregnancy consisted of him calling me a prostitute in public constantly and swearing that I was pregnant by another man. He even told his family that I constantly cheated on him, leaving out the part where he was THERE.

After our daughter was born and with concrete proof that she was indeed his child he would have NOTHING to do with her. We divorced 8 months after her birth.

To this very day, in his head, I was a cheater. He actually told our daughter that he left me because I was a prostitute who constantly cheated on him when we were married. When in fact I slept with 1 guy, his choice, while he was in the room, one time. My gut told me no but after constant begging I caved in. When I look back I often wonder if things would have been different had I maintained my original answer.

I could never do something like this for the simple reason i believe that if you are with someone then you shouldn't be shared but that is just my opinion, each to their own..Jenny

Those statements I made concerning me sharing my woman with another man were made more than a year ago and the incidents happened only twice; more than 2 decades ago!
I have a change of mind now and I will never let such thing happen again!
When I allowed it, it was with someone I didn't really love in the first place. I agree with Jenny 100% !!!!
That's about all I have to say!!!!

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I can't speak for ALL MEN but I can tell you the reason why I have this fantasy. I like how masochistic it is.

I want to be stripped of my dignity as I watch my girlfriend sleep with another man. I want to feel that humiliation. It's unhealthy but it's true. I want to feel the lowest low I could possibly feel. I'm a pervert and I'm pathetic for having this fantasy.

I only wish my girlfriend would dominate me in the bedroom and punish me for being so sick and disgusting.

I want her to tell me "How dare you fantasize about me with other men! You're a person if you EVER think I'll do that! You're pathetic!"

See, I crave masochism. Watching my girl with another man is just ONE form of masochism. There are MANY other ways I can get my masochistic urges satisfied.

Hope this gives you a better idea of why you're bf is acting this way!

I don't believe you should do it.
This practice is unhealthy for a relationship.
I understand that other people do it but think about this...

"other" people do meth but does that mean it's okay for you to do it?

having sex with other people and having your partner watch is a very harmful fantasy and will irreversibly damage you both emotionally and physically.

Please do not go through with this fantasy