I'm in a pretty new relationship- only 6 months, but I feel like we're really close and honest with each other and I was convinced that he was the one. I have post-traumatic stress disorder from being gang raped as a teenager and I have night terrors and anxiety attacks. With my boyfriend's encouragement I have sought psychiatric help and am working through my problems but I still have a long way to go. The problem now is I feel like my boyfriend is sick of supporting me and would rather be doing other things than helping me when I'm upset. When we were at one of his friend's parties I saw someone who looked like one of my attackers and panicked. He followed me outside and we sat in my car while I had a panic attack and after about 10 minutes he said "well, I have to go back to the party. See you later" and left. He didn't come and check on me and I sat there for hours crying and anxious. That sort of thing has happened 3 times now, with the third time being last night. Now I don't know if I can risk it happening a fourth time as I'm pretty fragile as it is. I love him and everything else about our relationship is really great but it hurts so much that he doesn't put me first when I ask for help or just clearly need it. I don't know what to do.
USchi he may just be struggling in knowing what to do. I have had now 2 similar relationships with women and sometimes we hit roadblocks, we get scared. Guys are suppossed to be the protectors of the loves of our lives but even we reach a point where we don't know what to do. I would ask him in a non threatening way if he is a little scared in knowing how to comfort you further. Also, if he goes with you and supports you at your cessions. If he does then you could ask him to ask for some help in the best way in supporting you. Also, and I must be honest and say you both may not be ready for a relationship as it takes two healthy individuals to make a relationship work. It may just be best to tone your relationship down a notch so that you can get your proper help, but still yet talk/communicate and see how each other is doing. I hope that helps : )