My boyfriend will not be honest with about nearly anything he thinks would get him in trouble [or something]. He denies being with any other girl, even talking to other girls! He comes home smelling like cigarettes, but denies smoking or being around people that smoke. He has cigarette butts in his car! I mean, he lies about the weirdest, smallest things! Obviously, since he lies about trivial things he also lies about big things. We were together for a year then he left me for another girl. fast forward 10 months and we're back together. Now, at almost 2 years back together he still denies ever being with the other girl! He says he never dated her, his friends made him, but he never even talked to her.
These lies are ridiculous and I don't understand why he would lie about it. I thought maybe I made him feel like if he was honest I'd be be mad, so I explained to him many times that I understand if he wants to hang out with girls, I realize he's a human being and has been interested by other chicks. I tell him it's okay if he wants to smoke or whatever, I'm not his parent I can't tell him what to do/what not to do. You know, I just let him know I'd never get too mad as long as he was being honest.
He's always been this way. He also lies about the way people treat him.
If he's with me, he says his friends are the worst people ever, they make him do so many horrible things, they're mean to him, so on & so on.
If he's with his friends then I'm the worst person ever. I'm always mad at him or yelling at him or making him feel like crap, so on.
Of course he denies doing this as well, but I've heard him doing it. He told me he only did it because his roommate made him!
Anyways, I'm just really frustrated because I'm pregnant and I really want him to grow up before we have our baby. Other then the lying/"trash talking", he's great. He's sweet, thoughtful, works hard and seems to really care about me.
Should I get out of this now or hope he'll start being honest?
Is there any hope he'll start being honest?!
Maybe I'm overreacting? I don't know.
Thank you & sorry for rambling!