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Q: Boyfriend is cyber cheating..HELP
asked by: gegejaz on September 5th, 2009
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Me and my boyfriend love eachother dearly, but he is the bigest flirt ever. he constantly flirt with girls and tell me it's no big deal, it's just if they say something of course your going to say something back. when i would do some innocent flirting with a guy, wow he gets mad, and jealous and tell me don't do it again he really don't like that. so i said ok. i won't do it again baby. then when he get online he flirt with all these girls, and say what he like in them, and they tell him what they would do to him, then when i get mad or jealous he beg me to forgive him and constantly appologize and say he won't do it again. then what do u know..he does it again, n again, n again. then when i get mad and say if i was having that deep sexual conversation how would u feel? then he say this 1 line that really piss me off "guys and girls r not the same thing" "if i do it, it's kind of harmless and people would shrug it off" "but if you do it, people would think ur a hoe,or a bad girl who is probably a cheater ect..." so what do i do? how can i get him over this idea, and that even if what he says is true, is not an excuse to keep doing something i do not like? is it just a guy thing and im over reacting, or am i right in a way?
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bamagirl1
replied on September 5th, 2009
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no no no you are not over reacting he is way too old to act like a horny teenager. tell him its hurting you and stop no buts about it . it is VERY disrespectful to you for him to do this . ther is no excuse for him to be doing this to you. hes leading them on and enjoying the attention thats why hes doing it. mens egos are huge and want every girl to be in love with them thats why he doesent want another guy doing it with you because he knows how its making him feel and doesent want you making another guy feel this way. if hes happy with you thats ALL that should matter other girls should not be in the picture like that at all. i bet hes not telling them he has a girlfriend. oh sweetie give im an ultimatum now dont let this continue its going to get worse and the hurt will be irreversable for you. hope everything works out for you sister. keep me informed o.k.
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W0LF
replied on September 9th, 2009
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The cyber-cheating is kind of silly. More often than not the words are hollow and even when they're sincere they're not based on a personal connection so much as the illusion of one. However it does highlight some much more serious issues. Relationships need to be equal. He needs to have the same standards for your flirting as he does for his own. Relationships need respect. He makes promises to you that he doesn't keep. When you call him on it he's dismissive, not apologetic.
This is a man who isn't ready for the responsibilities of a relationship. If you love him, break up with him and just date until he shows the signs that he's the sort of man you want to be your boyfriend.
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dontcrycrucify
replied on September 14th, 2009
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I know this is harsh, but he sounds like dozens of other low-life boyfriends who do this to their girls. It follows the same pattern 90% of the time. Get away from this guy, he is beyond unfair and completely disrespectful. It's hard to look at the cold truth when you love someone, and that said you probably won't take this reply seriously. He needs to change or you leave him in the dust and never go back. with a 10% chance he will change, by bet is on the dust. He had a double standard and worst of all, he is telling you what he likes about the cyber whores, he should be telling you how wonderful YOU are, not the women he is cyber cheating with. --AND he has the disgusting lack of respect or love to let you in on what they say they would do to him!?-- this man is a nightmare, he changes or you find something worth having sweetheart.
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Maria V
replied on September 22nd, 2009
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Girl, you actually sound really young, there's no way you're going to be with this dude for the rest of your life. I recommend dumping his a**, honestly, if he's going to stand there and do that right in front of you then he's not worth being with, I'm sure there are other men that you can be with that will treat you right. Because honestly, if he's doing this on the internet, what's stopping him from doing it in real life?
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