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Q: boyfriend has schizophrenia

asked by: crystalz on December 3rd, 2008

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Hi I'm 29 years old and a mother of a 5 month old son. His daddy suffers from schizophrenia and manic depression. He was doing really good when I was pregnant and when I turned 6 months pregnant he started going down hill. He lives in Florida and I'm living in Tennessee for the time being. He called a couple days ago and he sounded really good. He was staying at a halfway house and taking his meds, but he messed up and got kicked out on Sun. He called me today and he was talking about how the Marines want him to fight the Taliban and the UFC wants him to do underground fighting. I suffer from chronic depression. I don't know what to do. I want to help him but I don't know how. The hospital said if he goes back there they are gonna put him in a State Hospital. What should I do? Should I give up or should I stick it out and pray that he gets better. I want him better for his sake and our sons. When he's regulated on his meds he's such a good person. I have a hard time keeping up with him. We been together for almost 2 years and I never knew anyone with his condition. So I'm new to this.

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rooted

replied on December 5th, 2008

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Schizophrenia is a severe, lifelong brain disorder. If you're willing to learn about it, and make a number of personal sacrifices for his good, then I'd suggest that you pursue the relationship. Otherwise, it might be time to work on your own health and seek treatment for depression. I'm not sure, Crystalz, if a relationship with a schizophrenic person is easy...but if you're ready to be a caregiver and learn a compassionate response to things that might confuse you, the relationship might be what you want to do.

What does your heart say?

smmyss

replied on April 11th, 2009

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i just met a great guy that has schizophrenia, he is such a sweetheart and we have a really strong connection and i have a 2 year old with another man but he is so good with my son, i love him very much and if your in love and he is taking his medication and seeing his counseller than he should be ok, i say go for it, you may regret it if you dont!!!

woops

replied on April 11th, 2009

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As a schizophrenic, I would say no, do not have a relationship with a schizophrenic, it is way to risky. You don't know what he might become over time, it's to risky. If you do this, you should take into consideration that he may become someone that you just have to send away or cannot live with, or cannot contribute all that much. Not only that, this medication is less reliable than you know, at anytime he could have an episode, hallucinate or become delusional, maybe even violent because of these things. In conclusion, you don't know enough, don't do it.

jesusss

replied on October 7th, 2009

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my boyfriend of a year and a half has schizophrenia. most of the time, he is the beautiful, unique, interesting, sensitive person i am crazy in love with. but when he has outbursts every now and then, sometimes it can really hurt. the last time it happened, i was crying my eyes out and he just started laughing. then, i didnt know that this was a symptom of this disease as well. but i love him more than anything, our lives fit like a puzzle and he agrees. but i feel so helpless. i wish i could just make him better.
for anyone who is thinking about being in a relationship with someone who is schizophrenic, i dont suggest you do. things can be confusing and their outbursts can really hurt your feelings. but if you are in love with someone who has it,learn all you can about it and understand that your partner does not mean the hurtful things they say or do.

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