I understand that you might feel a little bad, but masturbation is pretty normal for men. I think that you can try to bring some romance back into your relationship if you want your BF to feel satisfied...specifically more sex. MAybe take a night to prepare a meal or yourself and spend some time with him!

It's perfectly normal for men to masturbate, even if they have a girlfriend. It's just a way to get rid of their 'sexual mood'. Even some girls do those things when they like too! So don't worry, it's not even a bit wrong.

o goodness...i bet your other boyfriends DID masterbate they just didn't tell you! its normal for any guy to masterbate, personally i'd rather not know when my boyfriend does it just bc..thats a personal thing...but its only normal..you cant be there 24/7! and even if you could sometimes all the guy wants is a quickie for himself haha

I know lol sorry if my post sounded naïve-like lol im cool wit him doing it, shooot...I do it to. but since were rockie right now I thought he jus didn't wanna touch me. but he's already told me the reason he doesn't feel close to me is cause our sex life is lagging. I guess feeling close to him is that emotional connection one gets thru intimacy...aww who knew mr. ex-army was a softy im glad he's going back to his old self again

anyways things have been feeling so much better after a month of things being rockie between us. im giving him more space, I don't bug him as much wit txtn etc, overall he doesn't feel smothered. and he's been acting super sweet, he initiates now yay when I tell him I love him I know he does even tho he doesn't say it. I know it.ll take him some time to start saying I love u back but he's silently telling me he does..and that's enough for me

Congratulations! Maybe you can also integrate masturbation into your new intimacy and sex lives! Sounds like you're doing good.

i tried once and after we were done,he looked bummbed. i asked him what was wrong and he said that everytime i did that he felt incompitent, like he wasnt doing his "job" right in pleasing me. i told him he does absolutely great, but im the one that needs that lil extra nudge lol so now im thinking of buying some lub that would make my parts sensetive so i can come easily. any have any brand suggestions?

glad your working it out. Most men NEED that release after awhile. And it doents go away if you have a GF.

Me and mu hubby just had a baby. No sex for 6 wks. He came to me and told me he was looking at a porno mag because hes so frustrated. He felt kinda bad to need that...but he needed to do something. It was a little disappoiting becasue no one wants our other half thinking of someone else sexually.

But his needs..just like mine...werent being met. I told him it was ok and that I understood,. I was just thankful he was trusting enough to tell me.

I think all they want is to not feel shameful. Its a natural thing for us too...so congrats and I really think this will bring you closer.

And about you needing that extra nudge...maybe show or tell him how to give it to you. That way he can do it and feel good and so can you.

maybe so it in front of him and say...i like this type of touch right here...I like it fast or slow...even decribe how strong the touch is. He will be grateful.

my hubby and i were very thankful once I got over my shyness...

Be careful with these! Any time there's ANY irritation around your vagina and you forget you've got special lube rather than the normal stuff then it will hurt like hell after you apply it and won't stop hurting until you shower.

One of the worst sexual experiences I've ever had...

And Rosie, your little boy is adorable!

yes do be careful of those creams. I too have has some bad experiences. I suggest trying them out during a non-sexual activity. like right before a shower.

that way you can see how they work for you and sex doesnt have to turn into something bad and painful. plus you can wash it right off

Maddie34-thanks so much...hes is such a doll

I suggest KY jelly, its pretty safe and doesnt usually irritate. They have a nice warming one which is fun. Saying that though i think its a good idea to try it out first before a shower, just in case of very sensitive skin.
What helped my hubby get over the 6 week no sex after birth thing and which stopped him having to look elsewhere at magz etc was me giving him some B.J.'s, he didnt complain. Good luck...
Also theres absolutely nothing wrong with some relief, woman need it too, especially if your partner isnt around. Toys are fun too, on your own or together.