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Q: boyfriend caught lying about age
asked by: sung54 on November 2nd, 2009
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I would like to discuss something here. I am going through a phase where in I just donot see myself anywhere. I have been into a relationship for more than a year. And everything seemed to be great. I had fallen in love for the first time ever and my boyfriend too is really gem of a person. The other day I was discussing about him with my parents and to my greatest shock and fears i came to know about the most shocking thing of my life. It might not sound a shocking to anyone around but for two of us, it is indeed. I came to know that I am few months elder to my boyfriend. I wasnot even aware of this for all these years, not even a slightest of the hints I ever had. I have informed my boyfriend coz I felt that I must.And, now I am feeling so helpless, that I don't know what's on his mind. I understand it's a difficult situation infact an awkward one for both of us. I didn't wish to hurt him. We havenot had any communication so far, I understand he might be in a delima, and so am I. I just donot have a courage to face him.I feel so low and shaken. I am not sure should I really feel this way, I am very confused and I feel like crying, feel like why has this happened. That too at this stage when we were thinking about the next level.His parents might not approve of me due to this and besides I too donot know what he might be thinking. So many negative things going on my mind.Will he think that I cheated. It is such a situation which would leave anyone with that thought.
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Courtie
replied on November 2nd, 2009
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oh that is so awe. oh my goodness. You see you are so close to the same age. Oh gosh you just need to eplain that to him in western culture its perfectly acceptable I think. Oh my goodness don't let his mind get away thinking you are cheating. Please. It's okay to be so close to the same age I'm not sure that you realise that. You are perfectly okay. In this chaotic world I think you will be just fine. please.
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sung54
replied on November 2nd, 2009
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thank you for your advise courtie, i am still so reluctant to talk to him, infact he is not communicating with me at all.

Its a big issue coz these things donot occur in the country I am from so often. Also arranged marriages are something that prevail, so a girl of his choice and that too a little elder to him is certainly an issue, I am very nervous, coz i feel as if i have lost him. I cannot bear the sense of being without him. He hasnot talked to me at all. I am just so upset over the whole thing. All i know is that i love him and can never have immagined a life without him. I really donot understand how to handle and what to do next.
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Courtie
replied on November 2nd, 2009
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maybe tell him so at least he knows your not fooling around. I can imagine how much pressure you are in but people are good hearted beings and if you don't take the risk you will never know. They could shrug it off. Just try it you have obviously built raport with his family aready. They like you already. Just try and see. If you don't make a big deal out of it they wont but they deserve an explanation on why you are acting up. It is important that you tell them. I'm sorry if that's not what you wanted to hear but it is important. Heck its only two months I have dated guys a full year younger than me. I have dated guys ten years older than me. Its gross who I've dated. You're lucky you only dated one man.
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