boyfriend cant stay erect

Believe him, it is not you, it is him. Stress and anxiety can definitely cause this. And now that it is an issue, it is just making it worse. Make sure he is well rested and relaxed before sex. And remember he does not have control over it. It is an automatic reaction to sexual stimulation. So it is not as if he is rejecting you. I can almost guarantee you he is just as frustrated as you are.

He should cut out bad habits, like smoking, drinking heavy or drugs (if he does any of it). Does he exercise and watch his weight? If not, you might want to work out with him to encourage him to look better after his health.

Also stop trying so hard for a while. It is perfectly fine to just cuddle, have oral sex or finger sex for a bit. Get some massage oil and massage each other. Intimacy is about ore than sex, and if you are frustrated, you always have your fingers (or even a vibrator) to hep you out.

Sex after a night's rest might also help with stress.

If nothing helps, he should see his doctor. It might be an indication of more serious problems. Just trying ED drugs by himself without seeing a doctor may just hide other problems.

Best of luck!

Thank you for you advice. He doesnt smoke or drink, and is very fit, but does have 2 jobs and is in school. He is very stressed and doesnt get enough sleep. I guess we can try the oral thing for now. We both love to cuddle, so that's a good idea as well. Again, thank you.

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This is all good advice and likely the problem is stress but there are a couple of things speaking from the man's side (an older experienced male with ED), that may also help. Make sure you shower well before being together. Although it is not obvious you may have slight odor (or taste) that could be a small turnoff and your partner may not be brave enough to tell you. Also, be less agressive sexually, but still letting him know you want him. Too strong the appearance of the sex drive on your part could be mixing up his thinking about your loyalty, especially if he really loves you deeply. But above all else, be the one to start the sessions equally often or just slightly less, as this will show him you love him and desire him as well. A one sided desire, or appearance of that, will surely affect his performance in love and intimacy.