well..i do admit thats kinda strange..i dont think he should be calling her that often...talk to him about it again, if he knows its a problem yet continues to do nothing about it..what does that say to you? does he really have you in his best interest or is he being selfish...idk i haven't been in this situation but it would definitely bug me...i would think your best friend of all people would have put an end to this if she knew it bothered you....

what? you dissagree? so you think its ok for her bf to be calling her bestfriend all the time..and telling her things he isn't even telling his girlfriend?isn't that what guy friends are for? not ur girlfriend's best friend..... I just think they're getting alittle TOO close is all, especially if he KNOWS it bothers her..thats just like..."ok, basically i know it bugs you..i really dont care i'm gonna do it anyway"...personally...thats not ok to me...if something my boyfriend is doing bothers me..and i try to talk to him about it and he doesn't care at all and makes no attempt to fix it...yea..that would upset me

Considering I am a tomboy, I have a friend like that, he loves her to death but I am his bestfriend, I dont look at him in any sense other than a friend and we both respect each other. Sometimes we hang out at the bar, we play pool and beat on each other lol, although its been awhile he was always there and vice versa.

I can understand him not talking to you but are you giving him a reason not to?

Men generally love their partners but then some woman can't deal with the whole truth or freak out on them, therefore they turn to other people. There is so many different siutiations I could give but Im just using that. You can't tell him to stop talking to your best friend, its wrong its like saying, its wrong for you to talk to her, you will have to compromise but it has to be equal.

When either party infringes on the other, than the arguments happen and it only gets worse!

yea but they became "best" friends after the two of them started dating..i just think it seems like a weird situation...i mean I understand where you're coming from completely i too used to have more guy friends than girlfriends and some things were easier to talk to them about, especially to get a guys perspective on a certain situation...but it just seems like in this situation that her boyfriend and best friend are having maybe alittle too much interaction...just from reading her post it seems this way...

original poster: maybe if you talked to your best friend about things rather than talking to the bf things would get better?...how long have you two been dating ?

honestly...i think he may be more into her than you. I dont mean to sound harsh but why else would he tell her things he doesnt tell you? Why does he call her more than you? Why does he not change his behavior after he knew it bothered you? Obviously she is in his thoughts more than you.

Now I could be totally wrong and maybe he feels he cant talk to you or maybe something has changed between you too. Either way when you are in a relationship you should be thinking of that person not their best friend. He needs to have some more respect for your boundries. But again that comes back to the fact that he should care enough to not cross those boundries.

What does your gut tell you?

if that is the case of the poster above mine..and he is into your best friend and they start dating..i would cut ties of that "best" friend...thats just something you don't do...

to worrywart01...we've been together for 6 months