Hi Mary. Nice to meet you. IT sounds like you're in a difficult position. Have you ever been to an Al-Anon meeting? These meetings are 12 step groups for people who love or care about an addict, but need to learn loving detachment. It might actually be best for your son to be away from an addict father. Have you consulted anyone in social services about the situation? There are many resources. IT will depend upon how far you are willing to go for yourself and your children. You will need to be strong.

Hello
Nice to meet you.

I agree with the above posted.

Have you tried going to a rehab with your partner at all. Is he willing to actually come of the drugs. You have to be prepared for all the mood swings and anger as they come of them. Having a child around drugs can be dangerous can you keep him away

Hope this is some help for you.

Welcome to eHealth. My heart goes out to you and your children. Does your boyfriend acknowledge he has this problem and is he up for getting help? If not, I'd say take your children and do what you have to do to keep them from ever knowing their Dad is on drugs. I totally agree with the above posts, there are resources that will help you and the kids. If you do nothing, you are going to wind up loosing everything (and the thought of loosing custody of your children) scares me. When certain agencies find out that there is a parent who is abusing drugs, the will and can legally intervene. This being said, I do hope you will seek help and that your boyfriend will take necessary measures to get off drugs in order to keep his family together. Will your family in Houston not help you? God bless you and your family!

Hi there.

I'm sorry to hear of your story. Can I ask what sort of drugs your bf is addicted to. I'm guessing they're heavy drugs right? Is it heroin by chance.
See the thing is that all this stuff you are going through is very unfair to you and you're kids. If your bf can't even manage to pay the rent then it is likely to be a very serious adiction. Unfortunatelty it's not you that can make him change his ways. It's only up to him. He has to make the decision and stick to it for himself and for you and for his chn. If you're in a really bad situation you should leave for the sake of your chn. This may make him realise what he's lost and make him want to quit but it could go either way.

I wish you all the best & wish you strength and courage.

Harmony xo