born very premature

It is very sad. I had a micropremie myself. A lot of women do. My son was born at 25 weeks, weighing 1 lb 2.4 ounces. He also had to be cut out of me, due to him not being in the right position to be born vaginally and due to his heart decellerating during my contractions. He did not cry. He did not move. He went on to live for 4 months, had to have a tracheostomy, a perc line going straight from his cartoid artery to his heart to give him nutrients. So don't doubt that no one else has had as sad a situation as your sister-in-law. When you come on to a forum seeking sympathy, try to remember that there are women and mothers out there a lot less fortunate than your sister-in-law. Women who have miscarried or given birth to sleeping angels, women who have given birth to preemies that DIDN'T make it, unlike your sister-in-law's did. You need look no further than the Miscarriage and Stillbirth forum to read tales as sad as yours. Your sister-in-law is lucky to have her preemie angel. I find it a little off that you would post on here to elicit sympathy, stating you doubt anyone else has been in such a horrible situation as yourself or your sister-in-law. You have yet to read or see some horror stories of what has happened to many other women and mothers here. It is not that sad, good came out of your situation, your niece is alive. My son is not. Some of these women who post on here have had no good come out of their situations either. Try to keep that in mind.

thanks for the kind words

while my sister-in-law was pregnant she bearly put on any weight due to the baby not growing because of been starved.

It also upsets me because this couple who my parents are friends with are expecting there 7th grandchild and there 6th other Grandchildren were all born full term and health even the twins were and my parents had to go threw hell just to get one grandchild

You have said that before many times "my parents had to go through hell just to get one grandchild". I am wondering why it upsets you so much. There are many, many, many women out there that go through hell just to get one child and that one child is miscarried, born asleep (stillbirthed), born with genetic defects, born very prematurely, and die. You have never been in a situation that required you PERSONALLY to say goodbye to your child before its life began have you? Neither have your parents. They may have had hard times, I don't doubt it, with a micropreemie as a grandchild, it can be stressful and sad. But they didn't have to say goodbye. Best advice I can give you is to be greatful that your niece is alive and your parents do have one grandchild. And may go on to have more. You could be the next in line to have a grandbaby. My parents have three grandchildren from me, one is now in heaven due to prematurity, the other two were also born prematurely but are alive and healthy, they also have two grandchildren from my sister, both of those babies were HUGE and healthy, and I never ever feel mad or upset because my sister could carry hers to full term. I would never wish prematurity, miscarriage, stillbirth on even my worst enemy. It is not something anyone should have to go through. I can honestly say I am glad my sister had healthy babies, even if I didn't. I am grateful for the three I have, even if one is an angel.

well at least your sister had hugh healthy babies

We have a poster here who gave birth to a micropremie too. That little girl struggled for life for a few months and died. She DIED. Be grateful that your niece is alive. Honestly.

This same poster became pregnant again and lost the pregnancy at 32 weeks. She's had two pregnancies and has two deceased daughters. Doctors have advised against her trying to get pregnant again. She will NEVER be able to carry a pregnancy.

If you still feel the need to mourn your niece's start in this life instead of celebrating her life, please PM justforfun and ask her for her story.

If my sister-in-law ever trys for another baby she will have to take an asprin everyday and have loads more checks and scans then any other pregnant women does.

The reason I get upset is because of those friends of my parents with all there Grandchildren

aww keep strong....my daughter too was a micro preemie born 1pound 3oz she was born at 24 weeks.....she fought for her life and she is now 1 years old 13months weighs 15lbs and jus started to sit up this month by her self. God put them her for a reason just got to work with them and love them

my niece is 11 months old and around 11 and a half pounds and is not sitting up properly yet

My 1st daughter was born 12 weeks early and was the smallest baby ever born at Levine Children's Hospital. She only weighed 13 ounces. She had a heart defect and a brain defect. She fought hard for 4 months before passing away. Then I got pregnant again and my 2nd daughter was still born at 32 weeks. I took aspirin my entire 2nd pregnancy and it didn't help a thing. I'm just saying to you be glad you niece is alive and well. So what if she's not sitting up yet. Premature babies are normally behind developmentally. And even if she never sits up, again, who cares, at least she's alive. It could have been much worse. I have my only 2 babies dead. I'll NEVER see them, or raise them here on this earth. But you know what, I don't go around saying how bad it is. Yes my girls may be gone but I had great times while Carly was here for 4 months. I enjoyed every second I had with her. Hannah may be gone as well but I enjoyed every second of being pregnant with her. those memories will never leave me. Maybe you should start looking at what you DO have and quit worrying about the small stuff. You should be more grateful.

Sorry I'm not trying to be rude or mean but you are much more lucky than others and should be grateful for what you have. On top of not complaining around others who DO have it worse than you. Maybe you should take a step back and just think before you post again.

I also wanted to say that I am sorry for your situstion. It is hard having a child born so early. There are a lot of hurddles to face in those types of situations. But at least she's alive. I hope you can find peace with this situation someday.

Im sorry to hear about what you went threw

Twins born early at 29 weeks as twin 2 wasnt big enough. 2nd day they discover he cant feed due to his oesophagus not being conected to his stomach. What can be done on this when the baby is so small???

my niece was also in hospital for 3 and a half months:(