Is this someone you are willing to put up with all the time? Think about it, then decide. Might not be worth you sanity.

I totally agree with MsCarrie...........life is too short to have to walk on egg shells around someone, or to be with someone who does nothing but want to start something. Using you as a scapegoat, sounds to me he has a lot of anger built up, yet, only knows to vent it in your direction......This is total BS....too many men out there who are willing to be good to you! To the Curb Girlfriend!

... the one living with BP? If it's him, are you being supportive enough?

the most difficult thing about this is that when i was diagnosed it made me realize that my relationships and there were many were all failures because of behavior and i was determined to be honest with myself and committed to compromise and control of my behavior as best i can..... he on the other hand sees me as "worthless" when i have off days and too animated the rest of the time

Hmmm, sounds like this guy is hypercritical. Is he worth it? Bpd is hard enough to manage when everyone in your world is supportive. You need a guy that has something to offer you. Telling you that you are worthless is deplorable! Kick him to the curb! You deserve better than that.

the encouragment~ cindy