We were married for 18 years and he is a good man.He was in Iraq 3x and 1 in Bosnia.He became forgetfull and hot temper and cries easily.He left for a business trip in Jan 08 and Feb. realatives and farm workers complained of a sudden 100% change in attitude. He became paranoid,rude, compulsive pathological liar and emotionally abusive. When confronted he denies what he did. He makes up stories that are not true.Wanted to buy any properties offered to him and tells the seller that I have money to buy. Met peole on a new business venturefor 5 days while on a vacation trip and wanted to give these people 13000.00 dollars immedialy.I disagreed and told me he wil divorce me.In that 5 days met this woman who is separated and has 3 small kids andhe wanted to marry because he pitied her that the husband abandoned them and he will help to bring them to US.He came back from the trip and he lost lots of weight,quiet and started to become like a stranger to friends and relatives.He started to accused the children as liars and he emotionaly abusive to us. I asked him to leave the house because of his unacceptable behaviour. He was also watching dirty movies even kids are around and spanks the kids for no reason. He was divorcing me in a different name and when confronted it was not his mistake it was his lawyer's mistake. He spread rumors that I am having an affair and I am a bad wife and when confronted he did not say it. I was telling him to seek help because he denies what he does.The court order him to see a psychiatrist and finally he was able to see the doctor.The doctor told me why I took him to Court and he will get worst.I told the doctor that it is also a puzzle to me that for 18 years he did not know my real name and middle name and he was claiming I took him to court and he claimed that I wanted to be divorced.He does a lot of things that he denies. He is living in a like distorted truth, he is very aggressive and provocative.He takes only the people who are negative advicers, if someone was not on his side he will not be his friend,if he is a male he has an affair with me. I know he has depression because as if he always think he is always being blamed and he is tired of hearing he made a mistake and then does selfpity and cry.The doctor did not tell me yet what was the dignosis but she said anti depressant will help.Please advice me I do not know what to do. Our children tells me that they do not want their dad to be back because they are always scared he ruin their days. I need to help him. If he really wanted divorce at least we will separate in a nice way and he will realilze that he can not destroy my dignity and his children happiness. Please tell me what is this and whta can I do more.