I'm not sure if this is Bipolar or not, but I was hoping to get some clarity. I have been dating a woman for 10 months now and I can't seem to ever read her right. She's a business person and while she at home she is fairly predictable , when she doesn't drink anyway.

At home, she is in bed nightly by 9pm, she just wants to watch TV and chill. She doesn't like to exercise and she can be quite the hypocrite, not to mention a bit egotistical.

When she goes out on business trips, she stays out until about midnight, goes to parties and dinners and even seems cold or distant when she sends me text messages, as if I am bothering here....Though we are engaged and I simply write to see how her day was.

She used to always send me texts saying goodnight and I love you, but I haven't received that in the past 3 nights.

She can be moody and irritable and very critical, trying to correct things I say or tells me I need to change how I dress, etc.

She doesn't open up when bothered, but then will blurt out that she doesn't feel secure in us and just expects me to hold her.

She has picked fights, to which I became defensive to the attacks, she then cried and said she just wants to feel safe and asked "when is it my turn?" I have no idea what she means because I do my best daily to show her I love and support her and she's even told me that I am the best she's ever had and that no one has ever loved her as I do.

She tells me that she is a freak and lives in her own Idaho, but then just generalizes that she is different and leaves it at that once completing with "I hope you can put up with me"

She gets very jealous of my friends and the funny thing is, she will dance with her friends...real close and kiss them on the lips (tells me that southerners do this) but when I do....All hell breaks loose and she even once approached a gal pointing out how I was hers.

She has had some bad stuff happen to her, she was raised in a somewhat abusive home, she served in the Marines for 23 years then retired, she is 49, to be 50 next week and she had a hysterectomy years ago and has been on hormone patches. She is also under stress due to her job being sold out recently and she doesn't like the idea of having to work somewhere else. However, the symptoms have been there since about the 3rd month of our dating, not new but intensified lately.

I'm not sure if this is just insecurity in herself or something more serious... what do you think?