My boyfriend and I are both 18 and have been together for 1 year and 8 months. He has Bipolar disorder as well as ADHD and has had them since he was a small child. We have been through so many trials and tribulations in our relationship, but recently since starting college things have taken a turn for the worse. His relationships with friends and family have been practically nonexistent and he ends up pushing people away. His mother has been his primary parental figure, he doesn't like his father, well his mom hates me and has made him break up with me several time even though he is an adult.I don't know why his mother hates me and neither does he, but in the last month she believes that we broke up and she acts nice to him now, but still he always says he doesn't want to be around people anymore and that he wishes he could go into a "coma". His reclusive behavior scares me and I have talked him into going to see his psychiatrist and psychologist again. I have been nothing but a devout girlfriend, i love him with all my heart and i hate to see him hurting, but continues to push me away with everyone else, he yells at me for calling him and when i don't he yells at me for that as well. when i make suggestions he yells at me and makes up some bull excuse saying he just can't do it (like when i tell him he needs to get his already way late essay turned in to the professors), i try to be there and he acts as though he'd rather me dead, when i hang out or talk to my friends he yells at me (even though their his friends too). He breaks up with for stupid things like not being able to see him for one day then he wants me back. I personally don't have any clue what he wants and i don't think he knows what he wants. I'm at a loss for what to do, i wanna be his girlfriend not a second mother and i want him to respect me and not treat me like trash one day and a princess the next, it's so frustrating i just don't know what to do. My friends tell me i should leave him until he finds out what he wants, but for me its so hard to do and i don't want to because his behavior is so unpredictable that he threatens to kill himself if i leave him. I love him with all my heart and i can never see him in any pain whatsoever, but he is just cauing me so much pain to the point where i can barely function and i lose my friends because of him. Please help i am desperate for advice from others! Thank you!