Hi all...I'm new here and would love some input. I am in a long-distance relationship (I know, strike one!) with a guy I absolutely adore. We have spent over a year speaking several times a day, spending evenings via webcam talking, playing scrabble, you name it. He's my best friend. I went to visit him in England in February, and after about 5 minutes nervousness, we were totally at ease together. The plan was for him to come back to the US to stay with me a while and see how he liked it, with the possibility in mind of his staying and working here. Well 1 month turned into three, then three into six.

He told me early on that he is bi-polar but we worked with it. I have depression issues myself, and we had always been able to help each other at our low points. Well, he hit a doozy, broke up with me for about a week, and then started calling again. We agreed to take it day by day, but he was still so down. He saw his doctor who advised him to visit out of town relatives, get away from his immediate family, job, phone, everything - just do something new and utterly different to break out of the low he's in. He's also changed meds from Cymbalta to Celexa.

He's been gone over a week now and I knew we would have little contact while he's away...but this is so hard. I'm determined not to call, but I do text occasionally, and he usually answers.

But I'm hurting so badly. I can't fathom not wanting to talk to him and wonder that he doesn't seem bothered about not talking to me. Is this unusual for someone who is bi-polar? I know the celexa, like all SSRI's, can take several weeks to start working. Do I just hang in there? Is there hope for us? We have always been very open about our feelings for one another, but right now, I'm at a loss.

Do I text? Call? Give him space and leave him alone until I hear from him? I feel like there is a rock sitting on my chest, and I can't concentrate. Now I'm taking new meds (Zoloft) and contemplating taking some sick time courtesy of FMLA.

I really love this guy. Any advice would be so greatly appreciated.

Thank you so much in advance.

Niandh