I also believe that BP have a lot of difficulty in loving people normally. Its like they cannot understand what love really is. My ex just turned against me after having had my help for one year and a half, he was out of work and could not buy a pair of shoes, I helped him with clothes, shoes, electrical goods for his place, a mobile phone, paid for trips out of state, paid for dinners when he couldnt, gave him money in his hands, put credit in his mobile phone regularly,etc, etc. I did out of loving him , however he now told my daughter behind my back that I tried to buy him by giving him things! Nothing could be further from my mind, I only saw the need and I had some money so I helped him. Now he is away from me, saying he doesnt love me, and I believe he is with a woman he met before, someone he called a 'woman of easy life' and 'stupid'to a point of not even knowing what a computer is.His words. He has left me for her before, came back saying she is not for him but I believe that he is back with her for sex.
I have now learned my lesson and he wont see any more of my money, ever. He even asked me for a lend of a sum and never paid back. He still wants to be friends!!!!! I know what that means in his book, 'if we are friends we still go out and you still put money on me, but I dont need to have a relationship and commit to you'.
I said NO for the offer of 'friendship' and told him I want nothing to do with him.
This was a man who stayed with me for one year and a half, many times a week, slept with me, travelled with me, said many beautiful things, asked me to be his girlfriend, said he was 'my husband'.Now im nothing and he is off me, treating me with coldness and distance.
He completely forgot all the help I gave him, all the things we did together, all our life and everything, he just went without a thought for his behaviour and my pain.