I've been with a Bi man for a year. We have been exclusive. Our sex life is great and has been open and experimental. We've been talking about moving in together.

I recently discovered an add he was writing for a personal listing. He wrote that he wants to have a discreet male partner for sexual reasons.

When i asked him about it (neither of us get angry and confrontational, we usually discuss things frankly) he said he had written it recently, but decided that it wasn't a good idea because he didn't want to hurt me. I'm trying to be understanding but have never been in this situation before. When we met he had recently come out to his wife of 20 years, which ended his marriage.

I told him I don't want to become a reason for resentment. He gained freedom when he got his own place and I know he wanted that freedom to explore things. He didn't intend to get into a committed relationship.

We've talked about this topic but it remains unresolved. He does want to pursue having a male sex partner while being with me.

I feel that if we are together, then we are exclusive. I don't care that he's bi. He has said that he would be unhappy and jealous if I were with another man. Why should it be different for me, regardless of him being with a man or a woman?

He then said that he would just not tell me. I told him honesty was one of the things necessary to continue with our relationship.

He said I was being 'conservative'. I'm trying to be accepting and open minded and am not sure if I am succeeding.

I'm torn because i love him. I don't know if his bi-sexuality is really the issue here.

Anyone have any insight?