I haven't been on meds in about 2 years now and I still want nothing to do with sex. But I do it anyway because my hubby doesn't deserve a non-sexual marriage.

before all the meds and finding out that I am bipolar my sex life was just awesome!

It will kill any relationship as far as I am concerned.

I was glad to hear that others have problems with their spouse in the bedroom - I was really starting to beleive it is me..my husband has no feelings of intaicy for me, he was diagnosed 6 years ago, we split up for about 3 months (married 27 years) got back together - he had a thing for some gal a work - he has been home for 5 years now and it is starting all over again - its really hard not to be able to hold,cuddle etc with him, its driving me nuts!! I love him to death and know that he is very sick, its like a cancer but you do not die from it. I will hang in there for he is my life. I go to a counselor to help me understand what is going on with our lives, I am taking care of ME so that I may be there for him....

I am also experiencing the same thing. My partner no longer has a sex drive--especially after he started taking lithium. We used to have a healthy sex life to what is now pratically non existent. I thought it was me, but to see these posts helped me feel much better about everything. It hurts when he wants to just masturbate just to get off, and it makes me feel like it is me--that I am the problem, I know that is not the case at all, but I can't help but feel that way. We dont cuddle as much or have such intimate moments because he just lost a lot of the intimacy when he started on lithium. I know that it is not me, but like I said--it can be hard to think otherwise at times. I just want him to know that I love him. Something you guys can work on is a "sex schedule" that way you both know that it will happen, you can prepare for it, and truly make it a special night.

Thank you boston11 - I would love to have a sex schedule but the only problem is at this time of his BP mood, I never know when to even hug him! I wait till he wants to even do that! I know that I need to maybe give him more space - I don't know, sometimes I think I am the crazy one! I love this man deeply, for 31 years to be exact and maybe my hopes are too far fetched, time will tell i suppose. Thank you again for answering my question at least I know that I am not alone in this wild world of BP. LOL

Of course! I am glad to be all of the help that I can be. I am in the same place where I do not know when it is okay to hug him, or even kiss him. He doesnt even want a kiss on the cheek so much. Something that I am starting to do is to occupy myself during the week and I try to make Friday nights me and him time--as well as either sunday or saturday. That way we can watch a movie, cuddle, and hug and kiss eachother--but during the stressful work week he can focus on work as can I or I can just sit on the sofa with him--not cuddle--but just watch a movie or tv. The hard part to remember is that they still love you just as much as you love them--it is just physically and emotionally harder to show it because of this terrible disease!

ive been on a myriad of psychological drugs for ten years. to say i have no interest in sex would be an understatement. My husband understands and is very supportive. We just went 4 months without anything. We cuddle, and when i feel like i can at least DEAL with it, we try to, and if im not feeling it, we quit. Im very lucky to have a husband who understands, but weve been together ten years and hes only known me like this for the most part.