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Q: bestfriend or girlfriend ??
asked by: SilentSpring on July 30th, 2008
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hello. im 20.ever since i was a kid i never had a really close friend. even at school i used to stick out of the crowd, as i was different from the rest in what i liked, my way of thinking etc. most people considered me as some kind of freak. and most guys n no girl wud even talk to me. being a person who doesnt talk much that made it worse. ive been single all my life. i spent all my time by my self. i ended up thinking that the whole world was like this and i wud probably have to live alone for the rest of my life. but i met this girl 1.5 years back. we got to know each other and we realized we had a Lot in common. she found my ideas n thoughts interesting and i found hers interesting too. we became great friends. we talk abt almost everything under the sun. as we dont get to meet each other directly a lot most of our communication is via phone and internet. we help each other when we have bad times, share happy moments. when ever we call each other we end up talking for more than an hour. this girl means a lot to me, but she happens to be my "friend". i have never seriously liked any girl in my life so far, but shes the 1st one. BUT once she said that "the best thing abt me is that she can talk almost everything under the sun with me and still keep it in a Friend level". does she have any feelings for me? or is she just a friend? she texts me regularly, starts a conversation whenever im online etc. ive told her shes the nicest person ive come across.ive told her that she can tell me if theres some prob bothering her, so that she doesnt get depressed sitting alone. and she does this too. but im too scared to confess that i have developed feelings for her. im scared itl ruin our friendship coz ive heard other ppl losing their friends when they confessed their feelings. is this too early or shud i wait more? im ready if shes interested and im ok if she just wants to remain friends.i just want her to be happy.
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mominashoe
replied on July 31st, 2008
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I think that you need to give it more time. If she actually did say it was nice to have things on just friends level, then you should keep it that way, lest you risk losing the only friend you have. I'm just wondering how long ago did she say that about "friend level"?
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SilentSpring
replied on July 31st, 2008
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well she said it recently. maybe a month back. till then i though she had some kind of feelings for me but then after she said that, i was kinda puzzled. is it possible shes scared or something? thats why she just wants to be friends? or is is that shes Always seen me just as a friend...?
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mominashoe
replied on July 31st, 2008
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If it was only a month ago, then it's clear: she wants this to stay the way it is and you shouldn't try to mess with that. The fact that you were realizing you had deeper feelings for her might have have gotten her attention. Girls can usually pick up on things like that easily. So that may have been the reason why she said she liked being just friends with you. I don't think she's scared, if anything scared that you might ruin the friendship by stating your deeper feelings or letting them grow stronger.
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SilentSpring
replied on July 31st, 2008
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ok. thanks for the reply Smile if being friends with me make her happy then i shall be a good friend. i just want her to be happy in life.
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mominashoe
replied on July 31st, 2008
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Good for you. Putting yourself second is always the best policy: she is very lucky to have you.
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