With every kind of medical procedure, there are always risks involved. This is HER personal choice on whether to get her son circumcised or not, NOT yours.
She asked WHEN, not why, or IF, or HOW.
And FYI-saying things like, "it is a horrible practice that should be banned world wide becides your son will never forgive you for having the most important thing to a male mutilated!" IS judgment.
Sorry your procedure was botched, but not everyone has that experience.
If you want the circumcision to be performed, do it right away and don't wait until they are 3 or 7. My nephew was 7 and he had to have it done because his skin got caught in his swimming trunks at the beach when a wave tumbled him over and tore it. It is very painful at that age. It's best to have it done when they won't remember.
Personally, how would a MALE know anything about how much pain/shock a newborn goes through during circumcisions? Furthermore, how would he know that it messes up a bond?
Poor nurturing messes up a bond, NOT a medical procedure.