Can't you visit or something? Someone moving away or leaving is a sad thing but it doesn't mean you have to cut all contact with them. I'm not sure how old you are or how great that would look with a student hanging out with a teacher (unless it's same sex) so I would be careful. Most of the time you just deal with it like everyone else. You get sad and upset but someone else always comes along(Not to replace the other person) that you will be best friends with. This will most likey change throughout your life.

I am in my mid teens and it is same sex. i have problems with non-professional relationships and i only know this teacher as she is in the classroom. Another problem i have is expressing my emotions(i am not shy but am very quiet). i tried jounalism but that never worked and painting i just don't have time for. I will try to write and stay in contact with them but how can i keep from distancing myself from everyone?

Well first you need to get to the root of the problem and that is figuring out why you might be like this. How are your parents? Do they act that way towards you? Often we pick up habits from our parents and it carries on into our life or personality. Maybe this happened because someone you know died and you want to keep yourself from getting hurt. You said yourself she is like amother to you correct? Thats basically a personal relationship right there but in school. Make sense? Also your problem with showing emotion can also stem from your parents and the fact that you want to sheild yourself from being hurt again. I know it's hard for you to talk about your feelings but its the best thing to do. I think you should talk to her about how you feel. Tell her you have a hard time expressing yourself but you wanted to let her know that you see her as a second sort of mother and would be very upset if you never spoke again. why do you think it's hard for you to express yourself?

My mother is very outgoing and happy but my dad and i do not get along at all. My mother always talks about how she wishes she had a duplex so that she could get away from him. ( I haven't told them about her leaving so they won't watch me like a hawk.) my mother has always supported me and been there when i needed help. My dad stopped caring about my school and anything else i did in third grade. I was trained in CPR but i have hoped never to use it, i have never wanted to use it on him. Maybe things will change but it certainly won't be soon.
i guess your right too i don't want to be hurt like my mother seems to be. when i was little i heard my dad say that he wanted a boy so i thought if i never showed emotion that he would come outside and play more but maybe i have taken that too far. maybe i control all of my emotions too much. this time i will keep up with her and i will try to be more open. thanks for the invisible help!!!!!!!!

Sorry for the quick message. Parents were headed in the room.

Can you not get an email address and keep in touch wiht her aon a daily basis, if only to say Hi? I can totally understand your Mothers frustration. I raised my own daughter ALONE, up until she was 10. As for your father not showing that he cares or participates,........well it his loss. He can't get these years back. My advice to you, keep in touch wiht your teacher, this great freind you can confide in....but in the meantime.....do not feel you have to alienate others. Why is it you put distance from yourself and others? You sound like a very likeable and nice young lady. You could have a lot of freinds, if you;d only "allow" yourself! Life is short hon....seconds turn into minutes and minutes into hours.....and the hours make a day....we can choose to live it to its fullest.....or shut the wrold out and live in misery............but we can't get time back......Your friend may have to leave, but that doesn't mean you have to loose her!

How can you confide in someone when you are afraid to burden them? She has had stress related fainting spells, plus i am scared to let her to see the other side of me. She is a Health Occupation teacher and she has seen me as the down right determined student. She sees a kid whose life is destined to take place in the OR. She knows i'm upset but she doesn't know how much. Another question is how do i say goodbye?

I think you should sit down with her and have a talk. Let her know how you feel and that you really look up to her and would like to keep in contact. that way you don't have to say goodbye maybe after you talk to her say "Well thanks for listening to me, i'll talk to you later: or "Keep in touch". Honestly i'm sure she will be touched that a student would look up to her like that. If I was a teacher, it would be one of the best parts of my job knowing what I have done for someone and them letting me know I made a difference in their life I highly doubt you will burden her.

I can try to do that but it would be hard. I have never sat down and talked to anyone in my hole life. Here on this forum is the only time i have ever talked to anybody and not been scared to say something except with a friend of mine who has a 'Memory' problem. when i try to look my teacher (Mrs. Johnson) in the eye I feel like I haven't done enough. I don't even know what it is I haven't done I just know it isn't enough. Plus I hate to look people in the eye so i don't like talking face to face. Bell just rung, be back later.

Well I would writ her an e-mail then! If that will make it easier for you to talk to her go for it! Or maybe write her a letter and leave it on her desk.

Melissa you and my fairy godmother have made my life easier.
THANK YOU!!

My best friend is leaving . She and I have been best friends our whole lives . Now , she's not coming back the next school year . See , she's an actress and pursuing her dream . Soon she'll move to L.A. Me and my friends have already started crying , and giving her letters and best friend poems . I feel like there's a hole in my heart , and I have to hold myself together because it's about to rip open . I'm beginning to be depressed.. I don't care if anyone on here calls me too dramatic , because she's practically my sister , and we have shared some of the funnest moments of my life . Please , if someone has gone through something like this , please help me . I need some kind of coping mechanism.

MyBestFriendandI

my teacher is leaving, i really feel sad and i cant do anything. i can't enjoy nothing no more, we are the same sex, and she is a behvaiour suport tecaher and had helped me so much. she really understands me. Im going to miss her soo much, I dont want her to go. I keep on crying and feeling depressed what shud i do to make dese feelings go away and feel better. I've tried lots of fingz but i still feel depressed dat she is leaving. someone help!!!!! i got a exam next week and i really need 2 concentrate on it but i can't...HELP!!!

i read your first post and all i can say is WOW. I think we could be twins in our situations! when i was 16 i had a really good friend who i totally depended on just leave (said it wasn't worth it to be my friend) i got so depressed i alienated everyone! two years later my english teacher and I become friendly and when the times come for me to head to college i'm WAY lost! i mean do i keep in contact or do i fade away? i was always scared to be a burden to her!

all i can say is make an effort to hang with your other friends a bit more, yes its not really where you WANT to be but as hard as it is just try to explain it a little, while they might not all understand it (most of my friends didnt) it will at least help open things up between you guys and explain to them why you might be upset or distant sometimes. also, just try emailing. start with simple, happy stories. see how the emails go and you can go from there and see how comefortable you are sharing about yourself. if you see she doesn't reply or kind of avoids the sensitive stuff just swithc back to the happy emails!

hope this helps
nina