So I just became sexually active with my girlfriend about a month ago and I'm absolutely terrified of getting my girlfriend pregnant, I'm too young to be a dad! I know condoms are a good way to stop pregnancy, which I was fine with, until I read the instructions inside the condom box that said "there is a 4 - 14% chance the woman can still get pregnant when a man has a condom on" which means that if we had sex 10 times chances are that once out of those 10 times something will go wrong and she'll get pregnant! Needless to say, this scared the heck out of me! So, after reading this, I told my girlfriend to please get on birth control, but she doesn't want to because she says its expensive plus she doesn't want her mom or her dad to find out that she is sexually active. Shes given me hand jobs and blow jobs at my request but she says its not working for her and she really wants to have intercourse.
Can anyone spare some advice on what I should do? I like having intercourse with her but, like I said, I'm terrified of getting her pregnant. Honestly, I don't think I'll feel safe until I'm in the 0 to 1% pregnancy range.
suggesting birth control is a good idea, and i dont think it is that expencive either.
ask her this, would she rather pay no more than say..20 bucks for a box of birth control or over thousands of dollars caring for a child.
even though you enjoy the pleasure with her by having intercourse, if you feel unsure of having it even with a condom you should tell her.
no need in hiding something like this, just be honest with her.
do your parents know your sexually active?
and if you dont mind me asking, how old are you both, she could always go to the doctors herself and get a perscription of birth control and her parents would not have to know, depending on the age though.
just remember, honesty is key.
if you cant be honest whats the point?
Best way not to get her pregnant, not to have sex at all.
I personally thing that birth control is not good for girls. One of my friends girlfriend was taking them, she had a crazy mood swings and she have gained a lot of weight.
I think those 4 - 14% are talking about chance of breaking, which I have never had in my personal experience.
The typical use of male condoms, which is the average way most people use them, has a failure rate of 14-15%. This means that 14-15 people out of every 100 will become pregnant during the first year of use. Spermicidal agents increase the effectiveness to over 95% when used correctly and consistently.
unnamedny, maybe that brand of birth control was not right for your friend.
mood swings are icing on the cake if it beats a pregnancy scare.
if they arent wanting to go without sex at all, condoms and birth control are a good way to stay extra safe, and beat the odds.
we're both 17 yo
She says birth control is $40 for a box of 40 pills, taken each day that's about $40 every month and a half, and seeing as she doesn't have a job and her income is based solely on what her parents give her, they might ask what the money is going towards even if she finds a way not to tell them, she also brought up how birth control does weird things to women...? She wouldn't elaborate. and Rachele101, as I said originally, we've been doing oral and handjob but its getting old quickly
birth control ranges from $20-$50 depending on the brand you get.
the things birth control does is help make a perios regular, and these are symptoms: mood swings, some gain a bit of weight, nausea, headache dizziness, breast tenderness, and sometimes blood clots.
thats not nothing to cry over..
but these can happen if it is not the right pill for women and they should tell their doctor so they can be perscribed a new one.
but if she depends solely on her parents for money, what will you guys do if she possibly does get pregnant?
depend on your parents?
why not own up to responsibility, and explain to your parents that you've both become sexually active and would like to take better precaution to make sure no pregnancy happens and take birth control.
just weigh out the options, $40.00 for the pill to make sure your safe, or $40,000+ for child care?
id take the pill [if i were her]
I do not know where you live but here in Illinois (chicago land area)there are several planned parenthood locations which offer birth control to anyone who is over 16 years old without parents permission. Also, In Illinois females making under 1700 dollars/ month can get the 'pink' card from the state which pays for all reproductive heath issues (birth control, checks ups, ect). Also, You could pay for the birth control for her. I did this when my girlfriend first got on the BC she is on because she didnt have alot of money.. The birth control is not just for her - its for both of you. As are the condoms. But for you, it would be cheaper in the long run to pay 480 dollars/year on BC pills than supporting a child.