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I think me and my girl are ready for sex and we love eachother but we also aren't ready for sex mentaly atleast...

You're fourteen years old. You don't need to lose your virginity yet. You both have plenty of maturing yet to do. Trust me. I'm sixteen (&female), no, I'm not a virgin, but I lost mine a few months ago to a guy I'm not even dating. But if you're religous at all, I say don't have sex. You could end up regretting it, although I think it's nothing to fret over - I'm not religous but the majority of the guy's I've been with have been. I would talk to your girlfriend about what her opinion is on this matter, if she wants to lose her virginity now, no offense, that seems like she's just looking for action, if you get where I'm going with this... Something that you might want to do is have a chat with your girlfriend, hers and your parents, maybe a counsellor or go to a health clinic. Ask your girlfriend why she wants to lose her virginity. If she tells you she loves you and wants to be with you forever - tell her that you have forever to lose your virginty, and that sex shouldn't matter in a meaningful relationship at this point. Sounds like you guys are taking it slowly. It's nice to see how committed you are, but you are very young still. Also, make sure before you have sex that you go to a health clinic and have yourself and your girlfriend checked for anything - even if she says she's gotten shots for diseases. I think the majority of people out there will tell you to wait. But be sure to use a condom, and also... If you're wondering if you're "ready" or not to have sex, talk about it with your girlfriend and have "the talk" with your parents. Make sure you say things sincerely and let them know you mean what you say, and do some research. Make sure they know that you're ready. I hope that if your girlfriend thinks she's ready to have sex, make sure she knows what she's doing. And by that I don't mean she knows how to give a blowjob or anything, I mean that she's on birthcontrol and that you or a parent will go and buy condoms. I know a lot of teenagers (friends of mine) that have had pregnancies, it looks like a gift, but it is a lot of work. I hope this helps. If you want more info or anything, feel free to ask. I hope everything goes over well with you and your girlfriend.

Thanks I needed to know that its just idk ive talked to my parents and thyed never buy me condoms neither will my girlfreinds

Go to a health clinic after school sometime if you're serious about losing your virginity and such. Actually, you should have some.. The typical school does health programs and informs students around your age about sex and all those things that go with them. You could always ask older siblings or family members, but your best option would be going to a health clinic and getting informed by professionals who spend their time informing kids like you about these things. And if you're intimidated or nervous of going their by yourself, and your girlfriend to come with or a parent or a friend, no matter how embaressing you think it is, it's just a part of life and these things keep you safe. Trust me, I've been there and done that. But honestly, my opinion, you should wait another year max before you decide to have sex. You can fool around and do things to each other- but you have to ask yourself are you really ready to have sex, and to committ, and be protected? The last thing you want is to get your girlfriend pregnant (unless you two decided that's what you want) or to have an STD. But good luck with it all, hope this helps.

At 14 she cannot consent to having sex with you. Legally you will be considered as raping her (statutory rape). So be very careful. Her parents can cause you great harm if they want to.

Rather wait a few years.

If the girl consents to having sex then her parents can't even go to Court with him(?). If the girl and guy both say they wanted to have sex, then her parents can't do anything, it wasn't against her will - he wasn't forcing himself down on her. Besides, it's just sex. Hopefully, they will get checked out before they have sex, other than that, I don't see any reason how her parents could sue him or anything like that.

Under 16 you have absolutely no say in it. The law of your state describes it as statutory rape. As a minor you have no rights, and cannot consent to sex.

Most of the cases where the boy ends up in trouble is because the girl's parent press for charges. It can give him a criminal record, make him a sex crime offender. Don't take chances.

Your parents probably think you're too young and immature to have sex just yet with your girlfriend, and they're probably thinking the same thing with your girlfriend. But if you think you're ready - talk to your parents and let them know that you think you're ready. Maybe that will help them and they'll agree to buying you condoms to keep you safe. Bringing up sex and that you want to be protected should win them over. Just be like "I'm in love with her. I'm ready to have sex and I want to be protected if I ever come close to having sex with my girlfriend", or something like that. I know it's not easy, but try. They might think that not allowing you to have a condom will prevent you from having sex, because you possibly might be scared of getting an STD or getting your girlfriend knocked up. In that case, just keep bringing it up that you think you're ready, and have your girlfriend with you. Things could get ugly, but if you've been dating for over a year than your parents should act civilized around your girlfriend, and your parent(s) probably will want to sit down and have a long talk with the two of you about why you think you're ready to have sex. Hope this helps. Good luck.

Maddie I read ur article or post and i ll tell you sumthin on there I read it about 14 Hrs ago.