I have no idea, but I have to tell you that I had the same experience with my first baby. And what was worse was that I had a VERY stressfull pregnancy (in and out of hospital and bedrest from my 21st week). All advice I can give you is to maybe ask someone to look after her for a couple of hours so that you can sleep. If you're a bit rested you'll have the strength to cope again. I totally know what it feels like when they just keep crying and crying and you don't know why. My maternity leave was the most depressing time of my life and I wish to NEVER go through that again. Good luck, my boy eventually stopped crying at about four months, hopefully your baby will settle sooner.

thanks 4 ur advice shes in my armd atm so its hard 2 type, yer i tried expressing milk 2 a bottle and asked my sister 2 watch her but she screamned hysterically until she was choking on her spit. im in suvh a daze ann now ive gotten mastitus! oh i hope she settles

That's such a pity 'cause you need some rest. For both your sakes. Have you spoken to a dr?

Last night was so much better ... its like she understands me or something. Because I said infront of her that today I would pick up formula to get some sleep, and she fed at 8:30pm then slept right through til 1am and fed then slept til 4am (ALL IN HER OWN COT) and then at 4am got grizzely and slept in my bed until morning, but then when I awoke at 8am I looked down and she had my shirt holding up in one hand and the other on my breast whilst she suckled. How insane is that she all by herself pulled away my shirt and fed. I did have a very over big loose shirt on but I am so impressed haha my baby is so intelligent lol. So yeah I am very well rested today, even though it was only 7 hours sleep in total ... I so needed that, so now in 2 days she is a fortnight old cross fingers she'll be as good if not better tonight as she was last night. Oh and at the moment she is in her rocker looking at me NOT IN MY ARMS ... I have use of my arms after 12 days haha. Thanks for your suggestions.

I'm so glad for you and I'll hold thumbs for tonight and tomorrow night and the night thereafter ..... It's such a special experience that does't happen that often so it's so special if one can really enjoy those first weeks. Good luck.

Thanks

now shes 16days old and as clingy as ever !!! oh dear!!!

Have you taken her to her two week checkup and is she gaining weight properly? You can try swaddling too, she will probably like that. My clingier babies also preferred their carseats/carriers much more than a cot or bassinet, so you might want to give that a try.

Yeah she has gained lots of weight, I bought one of those kangaroo pouches and she lives in that but when I take her out ... even to go to the toilet she screams. Her sleeping has improved though, she is one month old in 2 days and she now only wakes up every four hours at night.

If anyone knows about babies and children, its MOMINASHOE...........she's a pro. Take heed to her words of wisdom! Vanessa is a GODsend!

Ah that's it then. Babies love the security and closeness that they had while inside you. It must be hard on your shoulders and back to have her in the pouch all the time.

4 hours at a time at night is good for her age. She will get better at sleeping for longer periods as time goes on and she gets used to her new world. I'm glad it's turning out better and better for you....let us know if you have any more problems

Yeah my back is so sore from always carrying her. I'm praying by the 6 week mark that shel have improved lol. Thanks.

Did you ever find out how to get her to stop being so clingy? mine is 7 weeks old, and sounds a lot like your baby. I also haven't slept more than 2 hours at a time since she was born. Let me know if you found out how to get your baby to stop being so clingy! lol Love her as I do, I would like her to sleep in her own area.

My baby is 1month 1wk. Hes not so clingy now...only when something is wrong. But the 1st 2 wks were so hard cause every 2 hrs he was up and nursing. Turns out mu latch was lousy and he wasnt getting enough food. SO he was hungry more often which meant fussy more often.

But since shes gaining weight then your latch is probably good. My advice is to just do what ever you can to make her happy. She probably just needs you more right now. It gets better. But they usually dont cry unless they need something. They may be fed, clean, and comfy, but without mom its bad.

I use my wrap when my baby is real clingy. He has been lately cause we are battling a gas problem so hes uncomfortable a lot and needs me to hold him. Well I too want my arms so I use my wrap whenever I need to. This way hes snug against me and the wrap "hugs" him for me and I still have both arms....

heres a pic of him in the wrap with my hubby. My baby was about 2 wks. He still loves it too. And I am not so crazy.

Now I understand that message rosie ... well tumul it did get easier .. but il tell you for the first couple of weeks I was so sleep deprived I was in a zombie like state .. I crashed other 1/2's car because I was so sleep deprived I couldn't remember how to break. This probably wouldn't be the solution to anyone else but for me the way I got her more settled was I started feeding her a bottle of formula milk before bed. So I breastfeed all day long and then a night time bottle at 8pm takes her about halfa to drain that then she's out til 6ish am. She is now 3 months old though ... wraps never worked for me she hated feeling confined .. and now that she's learnt to untuck her blankets she throws them out of the cot ... then gets cold. I was so desperate for sleep that I thought whats a bottle going to do so long as I continue to breastfeed. The first day I gave her the bottle she slept for that little bit longer, every day it got longer and longer until she was around 2month when she would go from 8:30pm til 3am and now she sleeps through the night. Tumtum only thing to do is wait it out .. also as soon as she fell asleep I would put her in her rocker or on her play mat so she got less use to being constantly on me. I had a sling that I would cart her around but then I got told by someone that if you carry them in a sling or pouch often then the get use to it and depend on that closeness. Don't worry you will get your life back ... I'm off to sleep now ... for 7 hours By girls. Oh and Rosie those are very cute photo's!

my first daughter slept in a vibrating chair for the first few weeks. i would swaddler her and put her in that, that was the only way i could get more than a few hours. it still gave her the sensation that she was being held but it limited me from having to hold her. try a pasifier too (didn't work for mine but i does for some). babies like the tight warm feeling that they had in the womb, the closer you can get them to that the better chance you have to get a little rest. it was weeks before i was able to sleep more then 4 hours however i does get better!!!!!!

My daughter's now 15months old ... looking back at what I wrote I remember how frazzeled and sleep deprived I was haha.