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Q: Baby fathered by ex
asked by: jamig214 on September 17th, 2008
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I am 29 years old and have been married for 10 years and a few mnths ago started an affair with an old boyfriend. I became pregnant and am now 11 weeks and seeing as my husband had a vasectimy I knew who the father was. I drove all the way from TN to OH to get the father because he said he wanted to be apart of this and have a life with me and our child. I left my husband who kept my 10 year old and my 6year old and got an apartment for us. He stayed a week and then went to work and never came back. I spent over a week wondering where he was and if he was ok. Turns out he had a 21 year old girl back in OH who was 16 wks pregnant and he has 4 other children. He refuses to answer my phone calls and I am now alone. My husband is a wonderful man but a work a holic. He loved me and I loved him very much. I have asked if we can work things out but he says he doesn't think he can forgive me for what I have done. I miss my family soo much. i am torn about this baby. I think an abortion is the best answer but i don't know if I can live with that decision. I am so very terrified.
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replied on September 19th, 2008
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Wow. Heart break two ways --- a workaholic and a clear rejection. I'm sorry you're going through such a hard time!

How long before you need to make a decision about the abortion?
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christa964
replied on November 4th, 2008
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Please don't have an abortion. I understand about how your husband could feel about raising a child that was not his, how it could remind him of what you did, but it isn't the child's fault. Please don't abort and innocent life. You can make the best of this situation and give someone a precious gift. There are plenty of couples happy to adopt because they can't have a child of their own. Adoption isn't the easy way out either. It is taking responsibility for your actions and giving the child the life they deserve.
If you want to discuss this further or need someone to talk to, feel free to pm me.
Best of luck to you and your family.
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ServiceU
replied on May 16th, 2009
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i was going to abort my son b/c i didnt have a job, no place to stay, no money, & didnt knew how to take care of a child. someone told me how horrible that was to have an abortion, making me feel bad. my son is now 13 y.o
what ever you do has to be a decision that your able to live with.
my best friend has 5 kids, with 3 different men. and she aborted a child which couldve been from a 4 possible dad. she feels bad, but i think she felt as though it wouldve been too much for her to deal with.
so again it has to be your decision and something you can live with knowing what you did was right.
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