I am recently met a man(34) and we are getting on well but after a month there has been no physical relations except for hugs. we have chatted and he has OCD and has an aversion to body fluids to the extent he can't even kiss me...just give me dry pecks. We talked about sex and tried but firstly he is extremely self concious about his penis size..which is small but not non existant. He says he has no sex drive, he can't get erections and has problems with foreskin, beng unable to pull it back too far over head as very painful.
I have suggested going to the doctor as I can see this has really affected his self confidence and has very low self esteem. He said he could nt go about the problems ( he is painfully shy also).
I don't want to end the relationship but feel I need some kind of physical relationship. He isnt able to have sex, doesn't enjoy receiving oral sex, can't give it because of his phobia and reluctant to touch me himself because of the phobias. What can I do to help
The inability to pull back the foreskin might be caused by phimosis. Phimosis is a condition in which the foreskin is so tight, that it can not be pulled back. It is easily solved with circumcision. After the circumcision the skin of the glans of the penis might be a little bit more sensitive, so you might want to use lubricants with mild anesthetics for the intercourse. Once the intercourse is possible, his self-esteem might improve fast. If not, you might want to make him visit a sex therapist.
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