I've been married for nearly 5 years now. My hsuband was very very different before we got married which seems to be the case in alot of relationships. I'm not allowed to have friends and go and do anything with them. Oh he will say its ok but if I do, then I get the silent treatment for sometimes weeks. If I mention I am upset about anything, Again I get the silent treatment and treated like crap. Heck, if I agree with him, he gets mad at me and says I am being a smart ass. I'm never allowed to say anything at any time that is bothering me. If I do he will spout out with some sort of retalation. He will never ever take responsibilty for what he does. Ever. I've asked to fo go to counceling, he just laughs at me. We dont have sex but maybe once a year and thats only on his terms. The only times he will ever want to is when someone is around and he knows they are listening or if he knows I dont feel good. I gave up trying. You can only hear "why are you wearing that?" so many times before you really get self really worried about you look.
He aquired several credit cards and point blank lied to me that he had them. Racke up over twenty grand and then blamed me for his getting sued. He says I had copies of all of them. LOL I asked him point blank about a capital one card and he denied having it, even when the bill came in the mail the next day.
I have a sorry ass job that pays me a whopping 800 a month. And we live in this tiny podunk town.I had an amazing photography carrier but he just flipping HAD to go with me on photo shoots. He'd tell my clients I would do this and that (which I didnt) and would talk to them in a crude manor. Needless to say I lost a lot of business. He has no respect for me, my feelings, my wants or needs. He only cares what he wants.
I feel trapped and he knows i am trapped He knows I have no where to go and do not have the means to leave. He doesnt ever hit me but man, sometimes I wish he would and get it over with. The siltent treatment for weeks on end is just as bad.
I dont know what to do or where to go. It drives me nuts that unless I agree with everything he says or does we are not ok.
Now he wants to go on a trip. never mind all of our utilities are being shut off and we have no food. We can still take a week to travel accross country.
Anyway, I could go on and on but I think you get the idea.
Any ideas on how I can get him to liosten to me? I told him tonight that part of our problem is that I cannot talk to he and he refuses to talk to me. A communication barrier. he blew up as usual. And as always I say I am not blaming anything on you, we have a problem and only we can work it out. He said I was blaming him for it all.
anyone have an empty room?