I think you have already asked her and she has told you...Take her answer and live with it....

Painful anal penetration is just that …painful. It hurts physically and emotionally. Try to talk about what happened to her instead of asking her to do it right away. She would feel much better to see you care about what happened instead of asking for something she obviously has a problem with. I don’t mean ask her over and over again until she gives in…maybe you will be happier to know why

I was once a victim of the "sneak attack" as I like to call it. I was with my ex at this time. One day, during sex, without any warning whatsoever he proceeded to jab me with it. I felt a mix of pain, anger, and humiliation.

It ruined any thought I had that anal sex could be a pleasurable thing. My current boyfriend mentioned trying it once. I told him of my experience and how I didn't think I would ever do it. He told me that it was ok, and I never had to do anything I didn't want to. He said that if I ever wanted to try, that it would be at my pace and he would stop if I ever felt uncomfortable. I still haven't tried it, and he hasn't brought it up again. If I ever do it, it will be when I'm ready.

You've expressed your desire to try this, and she has given you a definate answer. Like Rosie said, maybe you should try finding out why and then just leave it alone. If she ever wants to do it, she will. If not, you'll know why and you can move on.

i dont think you should ask her. if you feel like trying it again think of her going to the bathroom(sorry for the crude image) and having diariah. also, i believe anal sex is for the gay. so good luck

exactly I have had traumatic experiences. My hubby expressed his desire to try it....didnt push the sugject. I shared what happened to me...nothing else happened. Then I had the desire to surprise him...one night I brought out the lube...and well you know the rest