We just recently moved to a new town, my huband is in the Army, and my son has asbergers we put him in a regular ed class untill the end of this last school year. When we talked about this comming year with the school we decided that a regular ed class room would be the best place for him and now I'm not so sure. This summer he has tried to make a new friend. He was very rude to him to the point of hurting the other kids feelings. I know this is the social part of asbergers but he will be in middle school this year and thier is so much that he has to change I am afraid that he may be a target at this school or even cause a fight without relizing he is being rude. Does anyone have any advice? I could really use it!
How old is your son? What grade is he going into. Grade 6? I know when we moved to a small town, our son was just starting kindergarten. We decided to our son in regular classes. He was diagnosed with receptive language disorder. It was hard for him the first few years and he did get picked on. It was tough for us but we had to let him try on his own. But most of the kids are his friends now and he just graduated this year. A few of them have known our son since kindergarten or Grade 1. He has never had a lot of friends, but he has a few. He is happy with that. I think we made the right decision, but everyone is different. Just letting you know our story. Good luck. PM me if you need to talk.
Have you looked into any social skills classes? Around here, we have organizations that camps during the summer and classes and stuff for kids who have aspergers, where they just work on social skills.
As far as you, you will have to be very frank and explain to him proper ways of interacting with others. Tell him, "Don't say that, because when you say that, other people's feelings get hurt and they won't want to be your friend" or something like that. You need to tell him, because it doesn't come natrually to him like it does to you.
Plus, even if he's in regular classes, there should still be some form of support for him. I'd talk to the school admin/psychologist about it all and see what your options are.
Hi there, my son was diagnosed with autism when he was 3. He's 7 now and in year2 but I'm finding that even though his reports from nursery were followed on to his school it seems that the school take no notice of his condition. I had one teacher in a parents evening ask me "what exactly is wrong with him". I spoke to the school Senco after this who told me that the teacher had looked at my sons file ONCE (which would of noted that he was autistic and had notes from the nursery with things the school could do to help him in his learning and behaviour) and i wasn't surprised after hearing this that she had no clue in what to do in order to help my son achieve to his best ability because that teacher also had 17 other children's files to read. It had taken me 2 years to get my son diagnosed, leaving me with no trust in the medical field, but i cant lose hope with the education sector. What they don't understand is, if my son has a bad day at school, he wont show it until he gets home and i take the full brunt of all the anger, bitterness and unfair treatment he's held inside himself all day. He bangs his head on walls, cry's non stop for hours, break things until i find out what happened at school and it can be as little as him being told off (in the morning) and not FULLY understanding why. When i have spoken to them in the past they just don't seem to understand what I'm saying because for some reason he doesn't show this behaviour. How can i get them to understand and take me seriously
I'm aspy myself and I survived school. Dont get me wrong I wasn't the most popular kid but one of the most amusing parts of being aspy is u dont realise wen ur insulting people and u dont realise wen they are pissed off at u, so it doesnt bother u so much.
But seriously, I never really fit in with anyone, but i had a few good friends who just found my quirks funny. And now as an adult the best friends I have in the world get it and they find it endearing (they also pre warn anyone they introduce me to that I mean no offence when I say something stupid). And also as an adult my husband loves my in your face bluntness, he loves my retarded honesty (as he calls it) - it is one of the reasons we have such a great relationship - cause I am so honest with him with things that most women would never dare say to their husbands.
So in short what I'm saying is your child will survive high school, probably wont be mr popular, but on the other end may end up a very successful and happy adult anyway
Is your not son not recieving any help within lessons? I have a brother with Asperger's Syndrome, and he has an assitant that aids him in his work during class, and is currently in the process of having someone aid him in social interaction with his peers, also. You need to talk to the school in terms of assistance in lessons/social interaction. It is not fair on your son to allow him to struggle in a social enviroment/lessons on his own, my brother was "asked" to leave his previous school due to being left in that same situation.
Public schools must be pretty amazing here in Wellington, New Zealand.
I always figured all the 'bullying' cripe I heard about and saw in movies etc was excessively dramatised...
No one harassed me at primary school or high school, and I'm no imposing figure.
I guess without a predominant social hierarchy or blatant classism, people just tend to be more considerate and accepting, without going to a "special" school.
This can be a very difficult time - especially since your son is at the age where he will encounter many different social situations. I know it is also hard to put him into a regular education class right now. I can understand your fears.
Have you ever heard of Hyperbaric Oxygen Therapy? It is a non-invasive form of therapy that hast he potential to improve you sonâs social interactions. In a Hyperbaric Chamber session, atmospheric pressure along with an abundance of oxygen causes the body to flood with oxygen - even places it may have had trouble reaching before. This creates healthier cells, and healthier cells equals healthier tissues and organs. Multiple sessions have shown significant signs of improvement in many cases. Iâve included several links on Hyperbaric Oxygen Therapy, including a video of a boy with Autism. Just let me know if you need any more information.
my son is now 16 he has been in a special needs school since he was 7 . they are really good teachers and they really go out there way to help the kids. i would reccomend these schools, smaller classes which are great for these kids 2 .