Anyone Young and Baby Crazy? Posted: 03-12-08 23:54pm
I don't know why, but I am so depressed
all the time, because I want to have a
baby so badly. My fiancee and I have been
together for almost 3 and a half years,
lived together for a year and a half and
are getting married May 10th. He doesn't
want kids yet, which is fine, I completely
understand, but I just wish that it was
the time in our relationship where we can
try.
It has been getting bad. I see my friends
accidentally getting pregnant, and
breaking up, and then I look at us, and I
know that we could do it. It would be
tough, but we could.
I have even been having dreams about it,
about being prego and holding my child. Do
you know how bad it feels to dream of your
child, feeling the love for them, and
waking up with them not there?
I also have very irregular periods, like
maybe 2-3 a year, so I am always terrified
of the thought of being infertile.
I know I am annoying my fiancee by talking
about it, and how I want kids now, but I
just can't get this out of my
mind...anyone have any supportive stories?
Like similar stories that ended up
well...or am I just crazy? Lol, thanks!
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benc152
Experienced User , Rather EHEALTHy
Joined: 13 Aug 2007 Posts: 225 Location: , Australia
Posted: 03-13-08 03:42am
my advice to you would be that don't
expect a baby to fix your depression.
for a lot of people babies are the best
thing to happen to them, but for a lot it
doesn't bring the joy they expect. You
can't be sure beforehand.
so I suggest to you that you get help and
deal with your own issues before thinking
about bringing another person into the
world. A baby/child/teenager needs a
stable environment so I think getting
better and happy should be yur first
priority.
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Emma2
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Posted: 03-13-08 08:31am
Irregular periods do not constitue
infertility. Having periods irregularly
means you are not ovulating promptly. With
that said having your periods at all means
you do ovulate and thus are not infertile
, you might have trouble pin pointing time
to have intercourse because of the
sparodic ovulation but definitely not
infertile.
Oh and yeah babies do not cure
depression..they add to it. It is NOT easy
and i suggest you seek some help for your
depression.
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kyles_girl
New User, Becoming EHEALTHy
Joined: 26 Aug 2007 Posts: 5
Oh wow... Posted: 03-13-08 11:30am
You both are so right. What was I
thinking?! I don't want to be one of those
moms. Thank you for all the help and
advice.
