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Q: Anyone Lost a Parent/loved On to Suicide?
asked by: collegegrl3 on February 6th, 2006
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I was just wondering if anyone has ever lost anyone they were close to-to suicide? I lost my dad a few months ago to suicide, and he was my best friend and the only person that I told everything to and the only one who made my life great. He always had the right things to say and always made me happy. I just wanted to post this question because its not a topic on the website, if you look up suicide on here.....It comes up with abortion stuff. I just wanted to know I guess how you all are doing because I know its the hardest thing in the world. Also, grieving is not all that easy too. I am only 20 some years old and I have had to deal with tough issues but nothing like this. It is sometimes hard too because I was the one who came home from college the day he did it and I was the one who found him.
I'm okay right now but I was definitly depressed weeks after it. And one more thing--my mom is already dating people and going on weekend trips with different men--call me "old fashioned" or traditional but I think that is just wrong (b/c its just too soon)and I really don't talk to her as much but I never really was close with her to begin with since I always told my dad everything.
Anyways, ill stop rambling but I was just curious about how you all are doing and how you grieve because I never really talk about it with anyone.
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Ani_stasia replied on April 17th, 2008
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I lost my grandfather a year ago to suicide. We were very close when I was little, but then we had a falling out of a couple years, and then he got real sick and was dying and didn't want to be a burden for my grandmother so he shot himself in the head. We never did patch up our relationship. I experience many different emotions...some I feel a little guily about, but hey I can't change my emotions.
I feel sad that he died and I mourn for the relationship we once had.
I feel angry over what he said and did that caused our falling out. I kept waiting for him to apologize, and now just because he died am I just supposed to forget all the hurt he caused me?
I feel angry and hurt that he killed himself without apologizing or at least saying goodbye to me, or letting me resolve my hurt feelings with him.
I feel guilty for all my anger towards him...
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