My ex was graduating and was extremely nervous about making his parents proud and adjusting to the working world. Because of his stress, I thought that I had caused it, and would constantly ask him if he loved me or if he was going to leave me. One day, I was really upset about our relationship and told him I think that we needed a break. He said no, and that we could work things out. The next day he comes back and tells me that he'd been up all night thinking about it, and talking to his dad, and that he thinks that we need a break. At the time I was ok about it, but we still took two hours discussing things, and crying and holding each other. It was honestly like a movie. We left the relationship with the understanding that we still both love each other immensely, but need time to get our lives together. A few days after our break up he wrote me a letter telling me how much he loved me, and how he wanted us to last 'forever' and didn't want our relationship to be ruined by a bunch of BS, and the break would allow for that BS to be settled.

Within a few days I was crying to him begging him to come back to me and that we could work things out. He told me that we needed this, and he still did care for me, but couldn't handle a serious relationship like we had while he was trying to work. He would call me every night and I would still cry to him. I would ask him to come over and he would, and sit with me for hours as I cried and was upset. After a month of that the phone calls stopped. I began to realize that it was my actions that caused it, and I tried to get him back, telling him how sorry I was.

After a few weeks I decided not to contact him, as I was leaving for a vacation. The week before he tells me that he is interested in some other girl and I lost it, telling him once again how I felt for him. He told me that he didn't know what to say, and that he didn't have anymore feelings for me. Once I got back from vacation I found that he was in a relationship with this girl, and I did not talk to him for another three weeks. He contacted me once during that time, about a game that we used to play.

I decided to contact him, ready for the superficial conversation to follow. I emailed him, and he told me how happy he was in his new relationship and with his friends. I thought everything was over but then he told me about his family, and how if it wasn't for his new girlfriend and his [three] friends, he wouldn't be happy at all, and then started ranting to me. I comforted him, and he then went on to tell me how he feels about life, ect. After that we had a typical conversation, each of us participating equally.

Some part of me says that he doesn't want anything to do with me anymore, but he still talks to me when I make contact, and is very friendly and trusts me enough to go into his family problems. But he is seeing someone else, she may be a rebound seeing as they went out a month after he and I broke up, and they were in the same group of friends. During the course of our break up he has gotten fired from his job and is partying all the time, hardly focusing on adjusting to the working world.

I don't know what to do?