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Q: Any advice?
asked by: penpen on March 4th, 2008
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I was with my boyfriend for 3 months. Recently he told me that he didn't feel a good connection. He said it wasn't a big deal, and said that it might just be him. I wasn't too concerned about it. I felt a good connection, I thought anyways. Sunday night he wrote me an email and said that he didn't feel right continuing our relationship, due to lack of communication, and my reservations. I am pretty reserved, but I felt like I opened up to him. He taught me how to kiss, I had my first orgasm with him, we spent the holidays together, his birthday together, valentine's day together, and I lost my virginity to him. I know that we did have some communication issues, mostly my fault. I have a hard time opening up and trusting people. I talked to him online yesterday for a couple hours and we talked about maybe getting back together. I am willing to work hard to make this relationship work, but I don't know if he is or not. I keep asking him and he doesn't respond. I asked him last night if he is "in or out" he said in. I don't know if this is just because we were going to talk again, or if he is willing to work things out. Oh, and about a week ago, he met a girl from match.com (the same way we met), and he claims that they are "just friends" and that he doesn't want to pursue a relationship with her. I want to believe him. He met with her and her friends a few more times after that. I really want to be able to work things out, because I really care about him. I don't know how I can change his mind. Any thoughts/suggestions? Thank you for listening.
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mrquestion
replied on March 4th, 2008
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well
at the end of the day if he loves you he will take you back
if he dosent he wont
the girl he met with he may have something going on with but he may not be telling you because he might not concider the other girl to be of any importance or he may not want to upset you but you just have to wait, but not forever if he is a defencive guy about girls then posibly make it seem like u are intersted in someone els but that is a last reasort only.

if it is the comunication he may feel he needs you open up to him and show him you can talk to him.

hope i help xxx
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penpen
replied on March 4th, 2008
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Thank you for your reply. We talked about love a couple times. He told me that he didn't love me, not yet.

He has been seeing this girl a lot. From what he told me, he saw her last tuesday, wednesday, friday, yesterday, today, and is going out again tonight. He kept telling me how he likes to be alone...well he's spending a lot of time with this girl lately...kind of suspicious to me. I'm having a hard time with this. He won't tell me if he wants to work on it, he keeps saying "I don't know." I think it might be over. Sad I keep telling him that I am willing to work on opening up more. I don't know. I just want an answer from him because I want to know if I should keep trying or move on.
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lats
replied on March 4th, 2008
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It sounds like he could be seeing how things work out with the other girl, and hes keeping you around in case. I woudnt bother waiting around sorry Sad
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penpen
replied on March 4th, 2008
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Just got an email from him, and its over. Sad
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penpen
replied on March 5th, 2008
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He cheated on me with that girl from match. I feel hurt, betrayed, confused, upset, and pissed.
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lats
replied on March 5th, 2008
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Sorry to hear that
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