I would almost get a second opinion it almost sounds like bi-polar, just would need other symptoms as well.

Hun if he didn't want to be with you he would have left, most people don't have tolerance for this but he seems like hes in for the long run.

Start working on you, find a hobbie or an interest, if thing havent gone away you may need to be rediagnosed or have your meds changed.

I have coped with depression for many years. First you want to take care of yourself. A good multivitamin can help. I now make myself a great smoothie everyday using a blender and can store cups in the freezer. This gave me lots of energy and makes feel better. I put frozen strawberries, bananas, wheat germ (tsp.) peaches,honey (3 tsp.) sugar (tsp.) 8 icecubes and cup of milk. I am now hooked on feeling good. Use as low a dose as possible on prozak. My doctor had prescribed as well, sometimes this makes you feel too numb. Second, think positive, count your blessings before you go to sleep. Your wonderful fiance etc. and don't give up on life or him because he loves you. You need this love. Get some exercise and a good night sleep. very important. With drugs I sometimes take every other day or every three days, but check with doctor. And maybe try 10 mg. Coming off of drug has to be slow cause this can sometimes make you feel crazy and dizzy etc. Is there something making you unhappy. It might be time to deal with that.
good luck!!! let us know how you are coping.

Thank You so much ... I'm gonna try all of it. It's true if he didnt love then he wouldn't be with me. Thank you

It's good to find the cause. I came from a smoke filled, verbally abusive home and had a bad diet (ate lots of sugar and candy). This contributed to my depression. I also read where certain fumes ( some from specific paint and hair dye ) cause panic attacks. So if you are a hairdresser the air you breathe is polluted with fumes. I'm focusing on changing my eating habits and getting around more positive people. I'm in a bible study with a small group of people. I find people helping one another is the meaning of life. Keep reaching out to supportive people. I am now 50 and I found now my depression is mostly gone and only sometimes I need medicine

Hi Virdi,

I realize that your messages were posted in march 09 and I am not even sure if you come on here anymore but I thought I'd try anyway.

I hope everything is well with you and I also hope the same for you and your fiance.

The reason I write you is because my fiance and I are going through a similar situation, the only difference is my fiance is the one who is suffering from depression and panic attacks. He pushes me away so much so that he tells me I'd be better off without him and that I deserve more than he can give me, he even tried to break up with me! We've been together for 5 years! He told me he loved me so much but he doesn't want to drag me through this whole ordeal beause he feels as though he is never getting better. This is soooo uncharacteristic of him, everything in our relationship was great until this happened. I almost feel like he is punishing me for the way he feels. I moved out of his house because he says it's too hard to be around me, he says seeing me is painful for him and makes him feel guilty. He is now seeking help and is on meds. He is slowly coming around but is still very distant from me, I love him so much and I don't want to lose him. This is the man I want to marry. I have been there for him through thick and thin, I have no intention of giving up on him now.

I write to you because I feel like what you were doing to your fiance is the same thing my fiance is doing to me. Maybe you could explain and clarify exactly why this is happening since you have been through it? it would really help me to hear what you have to say. At this point I feel like whatever my fiance is dealing with is all my fault, I wonder if he is falling out of love with me? Did I do something wrong? does he not want to marry me? or is the way he is acting a result of his illness?

thank you for reading!
If anyone has any suggestions please let me know what you think.

thank you