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i have a 6 month old baby boy declynn but i am now pregnant again but this time it wasn't consentual sex. and i don't know what to do?! i have only just gone back to school and got comfortable with life again. and i can't have an abortion in my fammily it is forbidden and adoption isn't an option either!!! HELP ME!!!!
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replied October 17th, 2011
First off you need to report this! Tell your family so you can have the support you need. Your young and its a lot of stress on your little body. Good luck on your decision
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replied October 18th, 2011
thank you. i have told my parents and they said there isn't any options. i have to keep it. bbut than you anywway.
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replied October 18th, 2011
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It's your body, you have to do what you believe is right for you and the child you already have.

Don't let your family decide for you what you should and shouldn't do it's your life and your body.

You need to speak to your family so you get some good support. Surely they would understand if you didn't want to keep the baby if it was conceived by rape.
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replied October 18th, 2011
you would think that but my parents were both believe that every child exists for a reason and if there wasn't one then it wouldn't of happend. when i first told them i was raped they told me it would be a part of gods big plan...
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replied October 18th, 2011
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That's a load of junk, I'm sorry, but a rape shouldn't be considered a "God's plan"!! You need to find a help line for women who have been through such trauma, and figure out what you need to do.

Good luck!
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replied October 19th, 2011
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Sorry but that's hardly the thing you need to be hearing right now.

You need support and not them telling you you have no options but to keep a baby you might not love and end up hating and it's all god's plan.

I believe that things happen for a reason but being raped is because some sick pervert can't get kicks any other way so preys on poor innocent women.

I think if it was me, I would do what I felt was right for me, whether my family agreed with it or not. I'd rather they got mad at me for following my heart than having to have a constant reminder of the rape looking at the baby.
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replied October 19th, 2011
thank you, i think i need to look into other options which dont involve me keeping it. i dont think at my age i could cope with my young son and a newborn even if its part of 'gods big plan'...
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replied October 21st, 2011
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Keep us updated and let us know how you get on and what you decide Smile
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replied October 21st, 2011
i went to a clinic for help today and have got alot of nformation on other options to think over. :/
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replied November 9th, 2011
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Well let us know what you decide to do.

Hopefully your family will support you whatever you decide if not then you're better off without them.

All the best
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replied December 11th, 2011
Gods plan does not involve a man forcing himself onto a minor and getting her pregnant. If there is some sort of a "heavenly" father up there in the sky, that's probably the LAST thing he/she would have ever hoped for. If you are capable of birthing not ONE but TWO children, you are more than capable of finding help for yourself and your children. Religion has this way of creating a false sense of hope and security in REAL life situations that can become bad, quick. Providing a strong life and family for these children is a major priority for being a Mother, and it sounds like you know this. You can find help, there are so many resources out there. If you found this forum, you can find help.
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replied December 17th, 2011
Have you been able to decide what yo are going to do? It's so sad that your parents don't take the time to listen to you..I am 27 years old and when I was 21, my parents made me get an abortion when I found out I was pregnant..and then I got cancer. Now, I can't have any children of my own and can't afford to go through the whole private adoption thing.. Sad If you have decided to give your baby up for adoption..please consider talking with me. I have married to my husband for almost 5 years and we have been together since we were 19. We would love to raise a baby.. Wink
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replied February 18th, 2012
i am sorry... but i lost the baby not after this post, i hope one day you find a child perfect for you
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replied January 11th, 2012
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Please report this rape to the police, not just your parents. Your parents clearly have issues if they think that rape is okay. This needs to be reported to the police immediately! If you are not comfortable talking to the police, tell a teacher or school counselor and they will report it for you, the police will likely come talk to you at school (you will be pulled out of class like you're going to the office so no one will know) so your parents don't need to know immediately.
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