I guess my best advice to you would be to change before you marry or else don't get married....Things do not get easier with a wedding ring on....In fact, they probably get more difficult....I have a temper....I have a mouth big enough for two sets of teeth....I flare up easily, but I am married to a man who tolerated this....He waited for a child to grow into a woman and learn to shut her mouth....It took me some time, but I made it....Love will only go so far and then you deal with your other half looking at you with the I have had enough attitude.....It is at that time that you learn to kiss ***....

Learn to work together....If you get mad then shut your mouth....If you have to count to 25 do it....If that isn't enough go to 100.....I am not talking about if it is his fault, but yours....You, like I knew and know when we are wrong....I know I still fight her....

Now about the scratching and cutting....There you had better think twice....Why are you doing it?....If you need help and then get it....We are here for you all the time...Day in and day out....This really is quite a place....As much as I thought I knew about life, I have found that I had barely touched the surface of the wealth of information out there....

I guess I just told you a story about me, but maybe in part it is about you.....When we do these things we are spoiled....We want our own way and we will go to any place or do anything to prove our point....Believe me, been there and done that.....

Much luck to you,
Caroline

Life is wierd we have so many things that we need to learn here.. one of the important ones is handling our emotions.. and when we can do that imagine what life will be like for us..unfortunately no where in schools or at homes we are taught this most important lesson that we need to learn.. but fortunately there is a course called the art of living.. its just a wonderful course that has changed the lives of people like you and me and of millions of people all around the world.. I am sure it will help u.

Hi Happilycherry: I have added your Topic to the Self Injury Forum for possibly more response...For me, reading your post has been eye opening....I wonder if years ago and before we were married, if he would have tolerated my behavior had we lived together?....You see this was not done in my day....I only saw him 47 days out of two years before we were married....He was in the Navy......

I think you have to ask yourself a question....Do you love him with your heart and soul?.....Would you fly to the moon with him?.....I would have....Just make sure that you are in love and not in "like"....

I wish you well.....
Caroline

Do you think your bipolar? you should check to make sure your not, if you are you can get medications for that.
you cant get mad at him for that reason you have to respect his difference of opinion, thoughts, desires...etc.
you should see you doctor and a therapist.
if you don't have insurance you should research the symptoms of bipolar, self injury, anger management..etc